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@redsmarties: Oh, I hope everything is ok! Good luck!
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@Sapphiresun: I hope your husband is able to get off work! Mine takes the bus to work and is worried about getting home in time to drive us to the hospital. He works literally across the street from the hospital, so if I had some other way good way of getting there he could just run across the street. I imagine he will have plenty of time to come home though…
@Lawebee11: I also had my 34w appointment today and am on the same appointment schedule as you. Today we scheduled the remainder of my appointments up to my due date, so that was kind of scary! I don't know when I'll start getting cervical checks, but I would be happy to wait on those.
@redsmarties: And I was just about to ask about the ultrasound too! I hope everything is ok!
Everything was fine at my appointment today and I only gained 1 lb (down from 5 last time!), so I feel more optimistic about not gaining 20 lbs over what I had anticipated.
I'm starting to get a little more uncomfortable now (ligament pain, difficulty breathing) but the swelling has been better--probably because it was cooler here for a while. Of course now it's supposed to be hot again! Baby is still moving lots which I mostly enjoy except it sometimes makes me feel sick. The hiccups are so strong now that they can be annoying when I'm trying to fall asleep, which of course is the one time of day that they seem to happen consistently! When I cuddle with DH he doesn't like to have my belly pressed up against him because of the baby kicks.
Have you ladies had strangers touching or commenting on your belly? I've read the horror stories but nobody has tried anything with me. One of the bus drivers did lower the bus for me today though, which I thought was pretty funny!
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Well, everything's going well, which is a relief.
The ultrasound yesterday was pretty good, I think. They couldn't give me any real results, but her heart and organs were all in proper form. Hopefully I'll have results soon.
This morning I woke up and went to work. By 9:30 my feet were HUGE, I had a headache, and I felt all weird. I paged my midwife, and she had me come to the hospital for bloodwork, monitoring and a non-stress test.
Luckily, everything is just fine. Don't have my blood test results yet either, but the midwife reassured me that she would call if anything came up (which she doubted).
Nothing like a little Friday excitement! Home now and trying to rest (but really making lists like a madwoman).
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@redsmarties: hope all is well with you and your little one.
@skipper2010: dang, my dr said they're starting cervical checks next week at 35. I would also appreciate them not checking under the hood for an extra three weeks.
@chanzi: thanks. Hope the public transit gods are good to your husband as well! -
@JamieLee: look what I found up here - amazing!!!!
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I also had my 34 week appt yesterday
there's a few of us on the same schedule. Mine was the same as everyone else's, nothing exciting. No weight gain, I actually have lost 2-3 pounds in 6 weeks. I'm surprised that its been 6 weeks and I'm the same? I'm still up 20 pounds so its not like I'm not gaining. I had a med student do my appt, he was wasting time until the dr came in so he showed me how he tells what position she's in. It was kinda neat. I get my strep b swab in 2 weeks as well, then start the weekly appts. I go to a group of 8 dr's, this dr said about half them don't do a cervical check at the same time as the swab and half them do. Doesn't bother me either way, though I think I'd get way too excited if they told me I was __ dilated haha. I've been having conversations with babe, and she agrees as long as she's fully cooked and ready to go, she will come around 38 weeks haha.I'm just washing all the baby clothes ( 2 full loads haha ) and trying to decide how to organize them. I have a spare dresser I'm going to move into the nursery ( it doesn't match though
) so I think I'll use mostly that. I wish I had a dresser that matched but just trying to pinch pennies. I've been off work for 5 weeks, and my ei still hasn't come, it will be 6 weeks on mon so it'll be nice to get some $$ again. @redsmarties: glad you're taking it easy and things look alright!
@chanzi: I find sometimes when babe really gets going I feel sick too... Kinda like motion sickness. I thought I was the only one -
@redsmarties: that sounds scary, I'm glad everything is ok! I'm feeling wonky today myself. I might just be over-tired, but I feel dizzy, light headed and overall weak. Blah.
@chanzi: glad your appointment was good! I hope I am only up 1 lb when I go in next week! My doctor hasn't mentioned cervical checks, hoping I never have to have them!
I want to go back to our cottage at the end of July for a couple nights when I'm 37 weeks. What do you guys think? Would you go? I will ask my OB but thought I'd see what you thought too. The cottage is 3 hours away and there is a hospital within 20 minutes. Maybe my OB won't even let me go. It's just so relaxing there, I can sit in a pool all day and my DH and MIL would both be coming so I'm in good hands.
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@delight: I think going to your cottage at the end of July would be a great idea. It'll be great for you to relax and have family time. There's a hospital near by and others will be with you so I don't see why the Dr would say no. Maybe throw your hospital bag in the car just incase but aside from that you'll prob have a great time!
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@MrsB2012: thank you. Good idea to have hospital bag packed just in case. I really actually don't mind having the baby at the hospital there if it came down to it, DH was born there! You're right, family will be there so no matter what all will be fine.
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@redsmarties: glad to hear everything's ok!
@chanzi: nobody weird has asked to touch my belly. I've even offered to some people when she's really moving ;).
@delight: I would so go to the cottage, it sounds nice and relaxing!
So jealous of you girls who don't get cervical checks until later. Pretty sure my practice starts them earlier. I'll find out on Tuesday I think.
Looking forward to the pregnancy burps and acid reflux stopping. Tums is starting to be not as effective.
Got my fmla approval from hr. hope to have most of my hospital bag made up this weekend!
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Well, just made up my first batch of raspberry leaf tea! It's not bad at all (though the sugar I dumped into it may be contributing to that). Got two boxes from Amazon today, so I finally have an exercise ball, six boxes of tea, a cloth diaper bag, and just some misc odds and ends. Two boxes of nursing pads, woohoo ;).
And I've officially decided that I should no longer wear non-maternity shirts lol. Bump is getting big!
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@redsmarties: Glad to hear everything is ok with you and the babe. Take it easy this weekend!!
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vent: I just got off the phone with my mother. Last time I spoke with her, she agreed to be available/stay home the weekends we have the stepkids in case I went into sudden labor and needed someone to come over and watch them. I understand that the chances of labor suddenly hitting and us having to rush to the hospital without warning are really low, but not outside of the realm of possibility. Everybody else is an hour+ away, and besides, I doubt their mom would come racing over to pick up her kids to help me out. My sister is flying in July 28th, and mom originally said she would have my dad pick her up at the airport.
Well, mom casually mentions on the phone to me today that she's planning on driving to her boyfriend's house (an hour and fifteen minutes away from me) and then the two of them are driving to the airport (an hour away from me in GOOD traffic, through the city) to pick my sister up that day. Because, and I quote, "there's no way you'll go that early" and "I thought you only needed me at night." Ladies, I'll be over 39 weeks along at that point. She's got it stuck in her head that because I was ten days late, that there's no way I could possibly deliver earlier than my due date. Oh and, "can't their mom come to get them if it's during the day?" Oh, you mean their mother who's an hour away from us and rarely picks up her phone when she sees a call from her ex? Or how about my inlaws, who don't have a cell phone and routinely leave their phone accidentally off the hook?
*chews a hole in the desk*
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@StrawberryBee: oh geez! I can see why you'd be p-o'ed about that! Makes no sense! And over 39 weeks is super high possibility of going into labor! I don't think the fact that you were late has anything to do with anything! Why doesn't he want your dad to pick your sister up?
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@JamieLee: Thanks! Myself and my siblings each have issues with my dad; I personally don't talk to him (he's never met DH and will never meet LO because I don't consider him to be fully stable, though apparently he's calmed down a lot in the last ten years. We believe he's an un-diagnosed bipolar; he can go flying off the handle at a moment's notice, though usually is on his best behavior when with my sister).
For my sister, probably because she doesn't want to be stuck in a car with him for that long; he's a very reckless driver and it's nerve-wracking being a passenger. He also has no idea how to carry a conversation, so it's super awkward.
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In non-ranty news, yay, DH set up the pack n play! There's no way we're fitting the glider in our bedroom as well XD.
Oh, and I once again ran into someone who had a story about how they were "sure the baby was a girl, got all pink stuff, and whoops it was a boy!". I will need a mental re-set if she's a he lol. Not saying that it would be the end of the world or anything, but it'd just be a shock!
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@redsmarties: So glad everything is okay! What did they say about the swelling??
@StrawberryBee: That just happened to a girl I was friends with in high school. Little Gemma turned into Little Henry upon delivery. So scary! I'm sure your little lady is still a lady
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@OklahomaMama: Thanks! Three ultrasounds and each time it's been "I think it's a girl" so I'm not so sure ;). Will find out in the next 2-6 weeks! I'm bringing a gender neutral sleeper to the hospital just in case. At least then I won't have to explain years later why he was dressed in pink lol.
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@MrsB2012: Glad you had an uneventful appointment!
@delight: I am supposed to go to my cottage again the weekend of the 26th...I will be 35 weeks at that time I believe - I plan to ask my doctor. If I wont be alone I'll still go - but if I'll be alone at the cottage I probably wont go since that doesn't seem super smart - pregnant lady alone in the woods at 35 weeks!
@StrawberryBee: UGH....dont people know not to anger the severely pregnant woman? Besides, 39 weeks is totally a reasonable "at risk" time for her to go away. 37 or 36 weeks I may tell you not to worry but 39 weeks you need someone on call.
The PNP looks great. I too have had a few moments of "hmmm what if she comes out a he" and freaked out. DH has informed me that he will be so darned excited to have a boy that he'll personally go out and change the wardrobe. Other than that we just have some pink accessories in the room we could replace easily and the bedding.
I'm back from holiday vacation and trying to get back into the swing of things. Planning to hit up target this week since they are having their baby sale - $10 giftcard with purchase of two bulk packages of diapers and 10% off Burts Bees/California Baby and 25% off J&J products. $7 Lanisoh products and some other stuff that looks well priced. Just a heads up!
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@Mrs D: Totally had the same freak-out a few times this week, as I was sorting out all of the little girl clothes we've received. If she's a boy...we're going to have to get creative (and do some shopping!)
Scored some AWESOME deals at BRU yesterday. Got a $239.00 Pack N Play for $139, a $30 change pad for $17, and another massive bag of things for around $75. I think the only things left on my list are waterproof crib liners, a breast pump, a carrier, and a few other little things.
Anyone else realizing how SOON this is all happening? I'm full-term in a week and a half. How the HELL did that happen?
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@Mrs D: we will hopefully be at our cottages the same weekend! One last hoorah! I agree don't go if you would be alone though. That's probably not the best idea!
@redsmarties: oh man it's crazy how time is flying! I remember I didn't even post here in the first trimester cause I was too scared this was all too good to be true. Now I'll have a baby in a few weeks! Great deals at BRU! I'm headed there tomorrow with my mom to get the last few things I need. I am still having a shower but its at the end of September so there are a few things I need to have right away. Definitely picking up crib mattress and bouncy chair! So excited!
@StrawberryBee: love the pack and play! There will be a baby in there soon! Crazy!! I ended up buying a girl outfit at Costco today even though we are team Grilled Cheese. I kinda find all the gender neutral stuff to be boyish and decided if I have a girl, I want a girlie outfit for her to come home in. Keeping the tags on though! I can't believe so many people are told the wrong gender at their scans. I wonder if someone in this group is going to get a big surprise!
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Ladies...
The B-Agile and B-Safe are on sale at BRU...the stroller is $189 (usually $249) and the B-Safe is $159 (usually $179)...the set is also on sale for $330...I am so sad I cannot find any BRU coupons to use with this!!!! Anyways - wanted to make sure to share with you ladies. I am scouring my house for potential coupons now!!!!
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@Mrs D: What a great deal! Too bad mine's already sitting in the garage (that, and ordered off of Amazon from the States, haha). And the only coupon I have is for $5 off...or else I'd send it to you!
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@Mrs D: thanks! and aww, your DH is so cute. I've left the tags on most of the clothes, so if we have to we'll make a trip to Carter's ;). Like you, we'd just have to change up some pink accessories in the room itself.
@redsmarties: Wow, GREAT deals!
@delight: I know, my husband asked me last night "Is there a baby in there yet?" because I was petting the PNP mattress lol. Oh, and he did manage to move the glider in (to the other side of the room).
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@redsmarties: Yes! It's all happening SO soon! I've heard that the last month usually drags, but I'm feeling the opposite. Maybe the fact that it's summer and summer always flies by (for me anyway) has something to do with it. But either way it won't be too much longer for any of us!
@Mrs D: BRU has had some great sales lately! I wish you lived closer so I could just hand you a coupon.
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I was on vaca last week for the holiday so I knew I would fall behind… Boo! Trying my best to catch up!
@lawbee11: Today is the first day my rings didn’t fit going on.
I could shove them on, but I know getting them off later would be quite the task. I was hoping they’d fit since we’re THIS close to the end. Plus, my maternity pictures aren’t for a couple more weeks, and I REALLY wanted them to be on for that. I’m debating if I should get a stand in because I feel naked without my rings.
As for the hiccups, they do happen pretty rapidly/closely, but they don’t last for more than 30 seconds – 1 minute.@Modern Daisy: I’ve definitely noticed a “growth spurt”! My maternity jeans are getting tight and uncomfortable, and I normally live in them because they’re so darn comfy!! I’ve been wearing thin/light dresses when possible, and trying uber hard not to buy anymore maternity clothes since I only have a few weeks left.
@.twist.: Love the paint color in the room.
@Mrs D: My OB also recommended taking Colace before going into labor if you have constipation issues to help things along so when labor does happen, you’re not as backed up. I think my hospital/OB requires a bowel movement prior to being discharged also.
@chanzi: Fortunately, no strangers have touched my belly, and for those that do comment, it’s the usual inquiries of “when are you due? Do you know what you’re having? And Congratulations!”
@redsmarties: How frightening, but relieved to hear all is well with the baby! Hope you have more conclusive answers soon though because I know how frustrating the unknown can be!
I also started to freak a little when I realized how far along I was, and people are starting to share stories of the birth of their LOs. The ones where the baby came early, up to 3 weeks(!) really made me go bug eyed! I’ll be 37 weeks next week which means that’s the “go ahead” to pack a hospital bag because it’s practically go time any time after that!!! OMG!!!!@StrawberryBee: I know technology is much more advanced than when we were born, but my parents were told I would be a boy and well, hi! Haha!
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So a little update on me now that I think I'm caught up with you ladies!
Took my in laws to Vegas for the 4th of July, and met up my parents there also. Surprisingly, I did a-okay on the 3 hour flight at 35 weeks! However, Vegas' 121 degree weather was pretty brutal.
This past weekend and is when I'm starting to not be able to find a comfy position while laying down. If I lay on my side, gravity takes place and DS "falls" to that side and causes pain. So laying on my back is still the most comfy, but still not completely comfortable. Even if I put a pillow to support my belly, there's still pain. There's also more pressure down south that's made me stop and think.
His movements are much more dramatic and can clearly be seen on the outside. He favors protruding the left side of my belly, so much so that when I place the hubby's hand on the "pointy" spot the hubby gets a lil freaked out. haha!
We're going to install the car seat today because we have an appointment to have a car seat chech performed this Wednesday!!! There was only two dates my hospital was performing the checks this month, this wednesday or the 30th of this month. We figured the 30th was too late since I'm due Aug. 9th! I feel like with the car seat getting installed, it feels THAT much more real the baby is coming really, really soon!
I also have my 36 week appt on Wednesday and we're going to get one last sonogram of the baby - yay!! to see if he's heads down and in position, and do a cervical check to see if I've started dilating or not.
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@Alivoo01: oh dear I love Vegas, but it is sooooo hot there right now, I don't know how you did it! You weren't there for the Cirque accident were you? So horrible! I am finding it tough on my side too. I'm pretty sure my baby is lying transverse right now because I have a bump on either side. So I hear ya when you say baby falls to the side and is uncomfortable. My DH bought me a big body pillow yesterday and that helped me sleep.
Speaking of bumps/ hard spots... I read if you push on the protruding bump and the whole baby moves in response that means you pushed the bum. If you push, and only the bump moves away from you, you pushed the head because it will move its head independently from the rest of the body. I've been using this trick to figure out my babe's orientation. Hiccups help to locate the head too. At any rate, pretty sure mine is not head down at the moment but there is still time.......
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@Alivoo01: Laying on my back is also the most comfortable for me, I try to fall asleep on my side but I ALWAYS wake up on my back. The little man punches the mattress if I'm on my side, he doesn't like anything crowding him at all. It's cute
I have a clothing question for you ladies who have already stocked up (or are about to), especially those of you expecting little men: what clothing items did you get in what sizes? Also, I want to buy a coming home from the hospital outfit - something special not just a onesie. I am torn on what size to get since "preemie" is up to 7 lbs then "0-3 months" is 7-12 lbs. Aren't most babies born around 7 lbs? My DH is insisting that we get Preemie for his coming home outfit, but I'm worried that it will be too small. I'm okay with it being a little big as long as he isn't swimming in it. What do you all think?
ETA: Newborn size is not an option from the store I am shopping at. It's either up to 7 lbs or 7-12 lbs
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@delight: Ohhh...interesting. I hadn't thought about it but I think I felt hiccups for the first time yesterday (repeated small pops for like 2-3 minutes straight - maybe even 5 or 7 minutes) but they were real low like below my navel so maybe that means she is head down already? I am just over 32 weeks now...fingers crossed. I have also been having more uncomfortable pain in my ribs which I was wondering if it was her feet sticking up - maybe I have solved the mystery of which way she is facing.
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@Modern Daisy: try newborn stuff...I know the carters newborn stuff goes up to 8lbs...I would worry the preemie stuff is too small.
I am having a little girl so not the same gender but here is loosely what I plan to have for her washed and ready when she arrives:
Newborn Size (up to 8lbs):
-6 footed sleepers
-4 sleep sacks
-3 two/three piece outfits (pants/onsie/ls onsie)
-5 white SS onsie
-3 white LS onsie
-assortment of socks and mittens0-3 Month Size (8-12.5 lbs):
-5 white SS onsie
-3 white LS onsie
-8 Footed PJ's
-4 three piece sets (pants/onsie/ls onsie)
-1 or 2 warmer fleece one pieces for chilly nights
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@delight: I have the same. Mostly gender neutral, but one very girly and one very boyish outfit for the coming home photo op.
@Mrs D: I know. I'm seriously chapped about that. I was stalking the b-safe and finally just broke down and got mu mom to buy it it full price two weeks ago from target because I was convinced I was going to to into early labour and then they wouldn't let me take baby home. Now this week it's in sale finally. I'm tempted to return it but the only one they had was opened so I don't know if they'll take it and its heavy for me to carry/not in my own credit card.
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@Alivoo01: Oh wow! I'm impressed you were able to handle the Vegas heat. I don't mind the heat, but I'm tired of the swelling it's causing. lol Can't wait to hear how your appt goes on Wednesday. The fact that one of us is already starting cervical checks is so exciting!!
@Modern Daisy: I'm going to bring a NB size outfit (5-8 lbs) to the hospital for coming home. I may pack a back up in case I happen to have a bigger baby, but I think NB size should be fine.
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@Alivoo01: 121 degrees *dies*. I wanted to get the carseat checked out, but I think we've missed all the manageable inspection times at our police/fire/hospital. We may just have to wing it and have it checked after she's here.
@Modern Daisy: I would also do newborn. I'm planning on bringing newborn and 0-3 just in case.
"Sweetie" onesie with strawberry beanie in 5-9lb size from Gymboree (http://www.gymboree.com/shop/dept_item.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374305250187&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446013435&Port=DataFeed&ad=SLI and http://www.gymboree.com/shop/dept_item.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374305284925&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446013395&Port=DataFeed&ad=SLI )
Cream and pink raglan onesie with cupcake on front from Gap in size 0-3.
White frog sleeper in newborn size from Carters in case she's a he ;). http://www.carters.com/carters/Cotton-Snap-Up-Sleep-Play/V_115A020,default,pd.html?dwvar_V__115A020_color=White&cgid=carters-baby-neutral-one-pieces&start=
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@Mrs D: and @skipper2010: Newborn size is not an option from where I want to buy it. Would I be crazy to buy the 0-3 month size that starts at 7 lbs? The upside would be that since it's a nicer outfit, at least I"ll get to use it again but I just hope he's not swimming in it too bad!
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And you guys... The in law drama, ugh. I got an email a while back that mil/fil wanted to be called when I go into labour and then were planning to stay with us for a week-week and a half after baby is born. We politely declined and said we didn't want people staying with us that long. So it was dropped for a while. Then we get another email that they'd like to stay just a couple days right away, September long weekend, an then again two weekends after that.
We live in an 800 sq ft apartment, and the in laws are kind of high maintenance guests. (Ex: they stayed with us the day after we moved into our apartment and dh was at work. They knocked on my door at 11pm to say that the wattage on he lightbulbs in the guest room (now nursery) were too high and not conducive to reading to fall asleep and had me search through about 30 not yet unpacked boxes for 40 watt bulbs rather than 60s.)
So we again just politely told them that with the nursery replacing the guest room and assuming we'll be through the living room and into the nursery several times a night it didn't seem like a good idea. In the future they'd be welcome to stay and we'd give up our bed to them but while I'm still healing I didn't think I could manage sleeping on the couch/floor and offered to pay for them to stay in a local hotel those nights.
They agree to stay in a hotel and don't want us to pay so I assume everything's settled. THEN they email again that they want to come visit the weekend of july 21st if we don't mind giving up our bed to them (for real - who asks a 38 week pregnant person to give up their bed) and would it be possible for all the dates previously mentioned to stay with us if they bring an air mattress to sleep on the living room floor. Really, the last thing I want is to have sleeping people in literally every room of my house with a potentially screaming baby and its not like we could just tuck the mattress out of the way during the day so other people who'll inevitably want to come by to see the baby can actually walk around so I'll have to set up/take down their bed every day that they're here, not to mention added grocery shopping/meal planning/laundry/clean up because as much as they say they're coming to "help" they just don't. They're just going to want to play with the baby and be treated like guests. His dad is already taking about booking several tee times for he and DH and they don't want to spend money on a ferry and they won't drive our cars so we'll have to pick them up and drive them around the whole time.
But now MIL is upset that I'm "keeping her from her only grandchild" and feels like there's a double standard between them and how much I'll let my family come by (they don't need to sleep at our place and if they do come by I'd be comfortable with them seeing my boobies or asking them to clean my bathroom - so yeah there probably is somewhat).
I guess this is mostly a vent but... Do you guys think I'm being unreasonable saying no overnight guests for x period of time? -
@Modern Daisy: Here's my clothing list (almost entirely from the baby shower). Sorry the format isn't great; I just copied the list from my phone where I've been keeping to stop myself from buying stuff in sizes I don't need. I have no idea if this is an appropriate amount of clothing or not! I'm probably going to be needing more pants at some point... LOL. I'm not too worried about it right now since it will be warm at first and I don't know how long the baby will be in which sizes. I figure the baby will mostly wear snap tees and onesies at first. I feel like I've got a lot of newborn stuff so I hope that actually gets used. The newborn things looks so tiny compared to the 0-3 month clothes!
mittens (4)
0 to 6 month hats/booties (2)
Newborn sleeping gowns (2)
Newborn sleeper (1)
Newborn side snap tees (3)
Newborn onesies (5)
Newborn pants (1)
3 month sleeper (2)
0-3 month sleeping gowns (2)
0-3 Side snap tees (5)
0-3 onesies (7)
0-3 leggings (1)
3-6 month onesies (4)
3-6 month LS onesies (3)
6 month sleeper (2)
9 month onesies (5)
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@Sapphiresun: OH my goodness, same situation here!! Although at least my IL's aren't pushing us to stay right away. Stand your ground, that is what we are doing. Our rule is no guests (at all) for the first two weeks while we're figuring things out, then we are scheduling a trip for MIL to come stay with us for a few nights after that. We'll also have to uproot our lives to let her stay, the crib will need to be moved to our bedroom so she can stay in the nursery/guest room. But at least she really does help out with stuff. Do NOT let anyone stay overnight with you who doesn't help. Push them into a hotel forcefully if need-be. Small space, large space, doesn't matter. If they are needy and unhelpful, you are going to regret it. Keep repeating to them that you aren't singling them out - no one is allowed to stay in your apartment overnight so they are welcome to stay in a hotel nearby if they want to visit.
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@Modern Daisy: I'm "glad" someone can commiserate although it sucks so much to always feel like the bad guy. I was on modified bed rest in my second trimester for a week that happened to be a weekend that we'd planned for them to visit and they had stuf they "really needed to do off island" for a while so I allowed it with the warning that they'd be left mostly to their own devices and that dh would be helping me but they were free to use our vehicles to do their errands. It was a nightmare. They each laid down on one of our couches most of the weekend watching golf network which left me trapped in our bedroom with nothing to do. And then she proceeded to go on and on being demanding that I serve her drinks and remake her breakfast three times (because when I asked if people wanted french toast or pancakes I was taking a vote for what everyone was having, not restaurant orders but she didn't realize she was t getting special pancakes) and going on and on about how women are spoiled these days and you'd think I was the first woman to ever have a baby and "she did this with a toddler, so she doesn't understand why I'm too spoiled to need dh to stay home and take care of me for ONE weekend". It's just... Endlessly frustrating with them.
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@Sapphiresun: Oh wow, they sound horrible!
I had a similar situation with one of DH's relatives coming to stay with us claiming he had 'all these plans' with friends in the city. Of course all his plans fell through and we were stuck with him on our couch needing to be fed and entertained for 3 nights, which is REALLY long when you're living in a small apartment. I can't imagine doing that with a baby in the house! He doesn't know this, but he isn't welcome back to our place as an overnight guest anymore. He's really nice, but has zero 'guest' etiquette and clearly has no problem letting us pay for everything and being really needy with our attention and time. What horrible comments by your MIL! That stay alone should be a big red flag - if they aren't understanding at all of your delicate condition during pregnancy then they most likely won't feel the need to lift a finger after the baby comes. And if they expect to be able to 'order' meals from a new Mom, they're in for a major reality check. I also can't believe they keep ignoring your emails saying they can't stay over - definitely have your DH put his foot down to them!
I'm starting to get a little more uncomfortable now (ligament pain, difficulty breathing) but the swelling has been better--probably because it was cooler here for a while. Of course now it's supposed to be hot again! 
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