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@agold: Ooooh, that was brave of you to tell work. What did they say?
It's hilarious at work. I'm so so covered up. My boss and coworker both said they loved my outfit and new sweater. Haha!
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@pregnantbee: Was it brave? Hahah. I was nervous but my boss had sent me a string of pretty demanding emails before I even got in this morning. So maybe I told him out of spite. But really, if I get put on bed rest then I thought they should have a little heads up. No one here can do my specific job so... He forced a congratulations and I jokingly told him he can't treat me adversely because of this.
It is what it is. I don't know if it was best to tell. But there is also a very boozy lunch planned for wednesday that had me sweating bullets. I'm the most fun boozer of all so it was going to be hard to not out myself then.
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@JoJoGirl: I am glad you can continue with CF. With my barre classes, the only modifications they recommended at this stage are avoid doing splits (which, I get due to joints getting all loosey goosey and such, but I also don't want to lose that flexibility! *lesigh*), and to avoid any twisting motions (during stretches) if it felt uncomfortable. Otherwise, there aren't any more modifications until around 20 weeks or so. But. BOOOOOO for being called out. Because. Seriously people. MYOFB!
@MrsSCB: Your DH . . . IDIE!
Can't wait for your u/s update tomorrow! @coopsmama: I hope this was an isolated incident and that you feel better! Break out the maternity pants . . . nobody really knows but you, and I say be as comfortable as you can for as long as you can!
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@agold: If it makes you feel better and less stressed, then it's worth telling early. I can't tell you how stressed I've been that people will find out earlier than I want them to. I was paranoid about telling people at work the first time around. I didn't tell until 16w! I plan to tell this time after I hopefully get an all clear after the NT scan at the end of the month. It's so stressful keeping it in. And I only have so many baggy outfits. Ha!
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@pregnantbee: What is your reason for not wanting to tell before 16w? I really feel so dumb about this entire pregnancy and nothing feels natural to me so I can't think why I would wait. I really didn't want to tell until the end of March. That was my plan. There is a giant project we are just now gearing up for and will go last until then. I didnt want the distraction. And, of course, I know I can miscarry especially since I"m bleeding sporadically. But otherwise, I felt that now was the right time to tell for almost the same reasons. Ugh. Anyhow, its done. My boss left the office and has been gone for like an hour!
He really probably didn't expect to hear this this morning.
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I've been in maternity pants for about a week (I'm ten weeks tomorrow). I'm soooo comfortable now! I can't believe how much earlier I'm popping out with this baby than with my first. I don't remember really showing until 20-ish weeks!
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I had my confirmation appointment this morning. Doc was great and everything looks good so far. U/S is scheduled for Wednesday afternoon(!). I will feel so much better after we see a HB. We also opted to do a CVS right around 11 weeks (I will be 8 weeks Wednesday!) . . . so that's coming up as well. Hopefully DH will be home for that (he has a few trips at the end of this month).
I think I might be the only one not showing?! I feel bloated today, but no bump. I didn't have a noticeable bump until around 27 weeks last time. I am hoping to make it until at least 12 weeks or so, so that I can tell my office before it becomes obvious!
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@coopsmama: Haha. I love that you rocked it anyway and let people think what they want. I don't know why I'm so paranoid at work. I guess a little PTSD m/c and ectopic stress? I want to make sure this one is good and healthy before anyone at work knows for sure.
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@agold: My main reason is that I'm still scared something will happen and I will either lose it or there will be genetic or other developmental problems. I really really don't want to "un-tell" if that's the case. And last time around, once people knew, that's all they wanted to talk about, and it got old fast. So pretty much the fear of problems and the not wanting to talk about it forever?
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@CoffeeMom: High Five! I'm about 10w2d and been in maternity pants for maybe a week? Was tired of my pants digging under the belly. Might as well be comfortable!
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@pwnstar: Yay! Glad things look good so far. I hope things continue to be great and that you hear the hb on Wed! You didn't show until 27w last time? You must have been in AMAZING shape!!
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@pwnstar: Hooray for a great appointment! I hope your husband is home for all the appointments you want him at. I'm not showing either!
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@pregnantbee: I hear you and feel you on all of that. When I told my boss, I told him that basically I'm having a troubled pregnancy and may lose it. He definitely won't be talking to me about it. I've given the same info to the handful of people that we've told. Make that, that my husband has told. He's so excited that he keeps telling people. When I had my first bleeding incident last week, I was sick thinking about the "un-telling" aspect of it all.
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@agold: Hugs. I hope you don't have to worry about any of that. I'm so grateful we have this group to help us through it all. xoxo
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@pregnantbee: I don't know about amazing, but I was in pretty good shape! I had a tiny bump around 24 weeks, but really, if you didn't know me, you would just think I liked cheeseburgers and fries.
I chose maternity shirts for work that emphasized my bump because people would forget/didn't know I was pregnant! I really don't know how, because I gained a lot of weight (pretty much everywhere but my belly!). People always seem to notice when you don't want them to, and are oblivious when you want them to know!@agold: Thank you! And I agree that if it made you feel more relaxed to tell, then by all means! This journey is hard enough without having to come up with bogus *reasons* to camouflage doctor appointments and early symptoms.
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I told my team at work before the holidays. I was feeling like such crap with awful nausea, people were starting to notice. And we had started to do the foster to adopt process and I felt like I should let my boss know that I didn't need time off for that and that she wouldn't be contacted for a reference.
I'm also starting to show, I'd had a feeling I would by the time the holidays were over. Last time I could see a different at around 12w, now I'm only 7w and I can see the top of my stomach starting to bump out again. I wore maternity pants most of last week while I was off, but I don't really want to wear them to work for a while longer.
Clothes are getting annoying, but in a way it's really nice to have physical evidence that things are continuing to progress. I miss being able to feel kicks and see an actual bump.Oh and I broke out my fetal doppler a few days ago and I'm pretty sure I was able to pick up the HB with it
. I got a reading of about 140 at a certain spot, and we were fairly sure that couldn't be coming from me. One more week to go before my first appointment/ultrasound.
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Oh, and all this talk about exercise is simultaneously feel lazy, and want to take a nap
. I'll just be over here eating a pink cupcake I found in the kitchen...
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@MrsSCB: good luck tomorrow!!!
@pregnantbee: I was also paranoid the first time and didn't tell work until 16 weeks! i wasn't showing though, so i figured it was ok. this time my work situation is quite a bit trickier and I am still trying to sort it out, but suffice to say there are certain people I will need to tell earlier than I am comfortable. That said, my first appt isn't until 10+ weeks so definitely not before then!
@pwnstar: yay so exciting! I'm not showing yet at 5.5 weeks
my bump was similar to yours last time around - i went to a wedding in the middle of the 3rd tri and people didn't know if i was pregnant or thought it might be too early to ask. i popped the last few weeks though! I had sick abs back then, not so much this time around 
can everyone add their appointments to that list we had? i'm losing track!
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@JoJoGirl: oh and people need to keep their damn mouths shut! I can't believe someone called you out like that - honestly, it's no one's news to share but your own. with my 1st, when i told my MIL at like 8 weeks, her first response was, "i could tell, because your face got fat!"
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@Pirouette:
No she didn't! That's terrible! Why would anyone think that that is ok to say to someone!@ShootingStar: if there was a pink cupcake in my kitchen, I would have already inhaled it!
Got some intense nausea this morning that differed from my usual only-nauseous-when-hungry
I had hoped that I got lucky and avoided the all day car sickness feeling but alas, it may be here at 9 weeks on the dot! The only thing that sounds good is peanut butter toast so I guess I'd better stock up.I got round ligament pain when I sneezed just now and starting laughing because it hurt so bad and I didn't know how else to react lol.
Definately not showing here. It's my first and I have a little extra weight to help me hide out for quite a bit
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@mrschickpea: My morning routine is starting to shape up with wheat toast with a light layer of peanut butter and a diet coke. This combination has helped me get my prenatals down (and keep them down!). The DC off-sets the taste more than just plain water (or water with lemon, for that matter . . . I tried both!).
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@Pirouette: The people who just *know* . . . that shit is b-a-n-a-n-a-s! FFS, your face did not look *fat* (and who says that?!?!, especially if you think someone is pregnant!) and get out of here with your *I could totally tell* nonsense. No. No you couldn't. My eyes would have rolled so hard!
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@ShootingStar: I'm glad I'm not the only one who told work early. And wow. You were starting the foster to adopt process? That's amazing. Do you think you will go back to that after you have this baby? And that's amazing you heard the heartbeat at your own home with the fetal doppler! Are those dopplers expensive to buy?
Ultrasound Roster
1/5: MrsSCB
1/6: agold, pwnstar
1/8: Oldpueblojenn
1/9: Glitter
1/11: Shootingstar
1/15: coopsmama
1/25 dcw6411 NT scan, mrschickpea NT scan
1/26: pregnantbee NT scan
2/1: pirouette -
@agold: We didn't really think I could get pregnant naturally. I had to see an RE for months last time and the whole process took just under a year to get pregnant. This time, it was like a miracle. I started ovulating (but long cycles) and the first cycle we tried, BFP!
Anyways, I had some birth trauma and and I didn't want to go through months of medical treatments again to get pregnant. I also wasn't sure I could handle pregnancy again. Adoption seemed like a good option for us. But we had a lot of back and forth about which would be harder - pregnancy and a newborn again, or a traumatized 4/5 year old. In the end the decision was made for us. I think we'll probably stop at 2, but maybe one day if our family feels incomplete we'll go back to it.
DH bought the doppler as a gift for me last pregnancy. I think it was $60? This is the one I have, if you google I think lots of places sell it - http://www2.clinicalguard.com/sonoline-handheld-pocket-fetal-doppler-p-174.html
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@ShootingStar: Wow. That's amazing you had your miracle baby! I'm still hoping I will have a spontaneous miracle pregnancy one day, too. I hope you don't experience any of the same birth trauma this go round. And I'm so glad that the hard decision of how to proceed with expanding your family worked itself out. So amazing, truly. And thanks for sharing the info on your doppler. If my ultrasound goes well this week, I'll probably purchase one!
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@pwnstar: @Pirouette: Thank you!
Regarding telling work...I'm already super nervous about that. My boss is actually pregnant (24 weeks) and she's told me she does not plan to return after. We've been discussing, since before I was pregnant, me taking over her role and she plans to present that idea to her boss probably in February. I have always planned to be a working mom and I still really want this new position, but I'm afraid of being mommy-tracked and passed over when they find out I'll be having a baby about 3.5 months after my boss does
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@Pirouette: Ugh! I once had someone tell me AT WORK that they knew bc my chest got bigger. People are so insensitive.
@ShootingStar: I got chills while reading this. So amazing. I hope everything goes better this time around.
@MrsSCB: I hear ya about being nervous about that. When you do tell, just reiterate how much you want the position and how committed you are to being a working mom. Illegal for them to pass you over bc of being a mom.
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@coopsmama: noooo about the BAD nausea
I'm sorry! I hate throwing up while pregnant.@MrsSCB: Oh, that's so tough. I hope you get the position!!
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Finally made my first appt & U/S for Jan 25th! I'll be 10 weeks along. I'm super excited about my new doctor since its a small practice. His dad delivered my first two and I was just meh about him...but this doctor has better reviews and most people have commented on how personal he is (which was one of the problems I had with his dad).
I'll add mine!
Ultrasound Roster
1/5: MrsSCB
1/6: agold, pwnstar
1/8: Oldpueblojenn
1/9: Glitter
1/11: Shootingstar
1/15: coopsmama
1/25 dcw6411 NT scan, mrschickpea NT scan, HLK208
1/26: pregnantbee NT scan
2/1: pirouette -
@mrschickpea: i know! she felt so bad when i got furious, and tried to back track "i meant you look full and happy, yea, that's it!"
@pwnstar: hahaha! don't get me started with that nonsense, i can't take it! that needs to go in a manual of "things not to say to a pregnant woman" - hey, I think i might write one!
@MrsSCB: this is why i waited to tell with my first - someone decided not to return from maternity leave the week I was going to share the news! but i reassured them that wasn't me and never would be, and most importantly, i delivered on that promise.
@ShootingStar: that is simply amazing
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@pregnantbee: I would die! Really? people need to be told that that is an inappropriate thing to say?!
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@pregnantbee: vomit. Your CHEST?? So inappropriate!!!
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@Pirouette: @HLK208: Luckily the employee no longer works there. But I could really do nothing since my jaw was on the floor.
And yay HLK for the new dr and u/s appt! So exciting.
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@pregnantbee: @HLK208: @Pirouette: I'll definitely be stressing how much I want the job, that I'm dedicated, etc. and hopefully it won't make a difference. Sucks that women still worry about stuff like this. I know having a baby won't make any difference whatsoever at my husband's job...
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@pwnstar: I'm glad you had a good appointment!
@pregnantbee: My thoughts exactly!
@MrsSCB: It is ridiculous that women still have to deal with this! Would it help to lay out a plan so that they know how you will handle your leave and returning to work? Obviously things/timelines can change depending on your pregnancy and birth, but it may show them that you have things well thought out as well as emphasize your intention of returning.
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@CoffeeMom: I definitely think that would be a good idea. Part of the job would be managing a monthly publication, and I think there's a lot that could be done in advance in terms of planning and assigning stories for the three issues I would be gone.
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@MrsSCB: Is there any way that you can hold off on telling them about your pregnancy until after the job is offered to you? That's what I would try to do. I mean, you don't want to come off as trying to trick them. But I'd at least let them offer the job to you, even if you have to tell them at the same time - let them offer it to you first.
@HLK208: That's so nice that its the son of your previous doctor. My eye doctor is now the son of my previous eye doctor and I really like the son! And I like younger doctors in general as long as they went to reputable schools. And lots of ultrasounds on the 25th! How exciting!
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Still having pink discharge off and on. I am having trouble getting attached right now. DH keeps saying it will all be fine. I think I need to buy a Doppler it might make me feel better.
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@MrsRcCar: I'm so sorry about the spotting. Do you have a doctor appointment scheduled? I know you were trying to get a hold of your doctor.
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@agold: they just seemed to think that it's from the hematoma. So as long as nothing changes they want to leave it alone. I have an appointment next week.
It is what it is. I don't know if it was best to tell. But there is also a very boozy lunch planned for wednesday that had me sweating bullets. I'm the most fun boozer of all so it was going to be hard to not out myself then.
Can't wait for your u/s update tomorrow! 
He really probably didn't expect to hear this this morning.
. I got a reading of about 140 at a certain spot, and we were fairly sure that couldn't be coming from me. One more week to go before my first appointment/ultrasound.
I had hoped that I got lucky and avoided the all day car sickness feeling but alas, it may be here at 9 weeks on the dot! The only thing that sounds good is peanut butter toast so I guess I'd better stock up.
I'm sorry! I hate throwing up while pregnant.
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