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@OldpuebloJenn: Yep we are definitely going to have to figure it out. But actually my husband will have lots of time with our baby - he's going to be watching her on days he doesn't work! Its just that he and I have opposite schedules. We think this schedule will work out great and its what we've worked towards for years and why we waited to start TTC. But its still going to be that I will be on my own in the evenings half the week or more if he works more. Its going to be an adventure!! Luckily I can call him if I need to and we have such a large support network of friends, family and coworkers. Hopefully I don't have a breakdown and need to reach out to all of them.

So what about PPD? I was just telling my husband last night that I hope he will support me if I get PPD. How can we know if we are going to get PPD? Does it just happen out of the blue and randomly to random people? It freaks me out because there was a murder/suicide recently in my neighborhood and I just found out that it was the mom who shot her husband while leaving the the months-old baby upstairs! I had assumed it was the dad who did it. They were early 30s and successful working couple. Rumor has it that she was suffering hard from PPD. Yikes. I don't want to get that!!!

@agold: that's awesome that you'll be able to share caregiving duties so much!
PPD is scary, please be open with your doctor about your fears. Good news is you'll have a lot of people looking out for you- your Obgyn, the baby's pediatrician (most peds offices screen mom). I had a mild case of PPD that manifested as insomnia, I chatted with my midwife, got some great recommendations on how to deal. I'm prone to anxiety, so I let my gp, my midwife, our pediatrician know- so they can help me help me!

@agold: I think others described "solo parenting" well. My husband is almost always around when I'm with DS especially in the evening. He makes it a point to be home, and we share parenting and household duties at that time. If he were to work late and it is up to only me to prep dinner, feed son, help him brush teeth and get ready for bed, I'd consider that solo parenting. When solo parenting, there is no ability to tag out or hand over parenting responsibility. But it's generally temporary. Which as others mentioned is totally different from being a single parent. Make sense?

@pregnantbee: @ShootingStar: Totally makes sense! I never considered the ability to tag out once baby comes. But I didn't grow up with that kind of dad. Its going to be so interesting to see how things go when my baby comes. My husband and I think we have it all figured out but I'm sure its going to be interesting!! We live a very relaxed DINK life right now and I fully know its going to be turned upside down.

@coopsmama: Hugs. That has to be SO hard. One hour at a time, and hopefully the rest of his time away will pass quickly.

@mrschickpea: I'm sure everyone is different, and I'm not in the 3rd tri yet, but I can tell you with my first, I felt great in the 2nd tri and then I hit like 29 weeks and felt like I was back in the 1st tri again - nausea, exhaustion. BUT, it only lasted a week or two and then i felt good again the rest of the way! So it might not last the whole 3rd tri...although I remember being terrified it would!

Question for those who have been dealing with on and off solo parenting...does your LO get a little clingy with your husband when he's been gone? Lately, whenever my husband isn't around, as soon as he gets back she can't be out of the room with him. Only when he's in the house though, she doesn't care when he leaves the house. I felt bad this morning because he worked until 2am and was trying to sleep in but since she hadnt seen him last night, she wanted nothing to do with me this morning and just sat there talking and singing to him while he was trying to sleep...poor guy! usually she's pretty easy - him or me, doesn't really matter.

@Pirouette: We have the opposite problem; LO becomes even clingier with me when DH travels. She has always been a mama's girl, but it gets kicked up a notch when it's just the two of us for a while (like it has been this week). I feel bad for DH-he misses her so much and it's so hard on him to not be able to get the special time with her that he wants. I am planning to do a few things solo this weekend (like getting a pedi!), to give them time to hang out just the two of them.

@mrschickpea: My OB says 28 weeks can be a turning point back toward exhaustion and being uncomfortable. I certainly hope not! But. Even now at 27 weeks, my stomach is more sensitive, I am getting more headaches (and breaking out a little--WTF?!), and I crash about a half hour to an hour earlier every night than I did a few weeks ago.

@pwnstar: interesting that it's the opposite...both ways are hard I think! she was just sad last night going to bed without daddy there. Like she laid out a book next to her bed and said "just in case he wants to read to me when he gets home even though I'll be asleep" and she will often leave stuffed animals out to greet him home "in case he needs a snuggle" - it's so cute and yet I'm like he missed bedtime ONE night this week, he's not even traveling! how bad will his next trip be?!

@T.H.O.U.: yea, that's the other thing, we have a lot of house projects that he needs to work on over the weekends, so even though he's around, she can't play with him. she's spoiled because we usually do bedtime together every night.

@Pirouette: That would totally break my heart (for both of them). And how sweet is she to leave a book and a cuddle friend for your DH?! And yeah, I totally agree that it's hard both ways. I really do love how much my LO wants to be with me (most of the time--because I know it won't last forever), but I know that it's so important for them to have their own relationship and *language,* if you will.

@Silva: The maxi dresses I have that I currently love are (non-maternity) from WHBM and Rachel Pally; they are empire-ish waisted so they still work with a bump.

Last pregnancy I was able to find a maxi just from Walmart that was cheap enough and one size up to get me through.

Target has dresses buy one get one 1/2 off. They had some out!

Just had my 30-week checkup! Baby's heartbeat is good. My weight gain is on track. I knew I'm kinda big for the number of weeks, but she said I'm measuring 5w ahead! She said she will do an ultrasound next week instead of in 4w to try and get a better idea of size. She said today's measurements could be due to baby's position and fluid, so we'll see!

@pregnantbee: whoa! 5 weeks?! that's crazy. fwiw, my doctor has never used any measurements other than ultrasounds for size since she says belly measurements can be way off based on positioning, etc.

@Silva: I just purchased a maxi dress by Tart. I really like it. Its not maternity and its sized so that it can accommodate pretty much any body type. Its not cheap at all. But I got desperate and just saw it on the rack and grabbed it. I'm happy with the purchase.

@pregnantbee: haha i cant see my back so i dont worry about it seriously though, im a petite person, so maxi dresses are always big on me. My bump isnt big enough to make a difference yet. I actually think thats probably why i cant wear most maternity clothes - the high/low factor just looks silly on me.

@Pirouette: I think i have the same issue with maternity dresses. They either look like tents on me, or, with respect to the tight dresses with ruching (sp?) on the side, just make my hips look horribly wide. I am so turned off by maternity dresses.

@ShootingStar: yeah, I am trying to find a maxi dress that I can nurse in. I figure if/when I have to actually leave the house it will be the easiest and most comfortable thing to put on in the August heat.

I think I'm going to order this one. Free returns, so if it's terrible I can send it back. I will let you guys know how it goes.
http://www.ingridandisabel.com/shop/sale/1361msl-marble-crossover-maxi-dress

I have two nice non maternity maxi dresses from boden, but I don't really want to stretch them all out. I might get out the looser fitting of the two and see if it will work

@Silva: I love that, definitely want to hear how you like it! My trouble with maxi dresses is I'm short and also too lazy to get them hemmed

@agold: @pregnantbee: I just do this to my too long maxis

@MrsRcCar: Aaaahhhhh Congratulations! Queen of the castle!