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@pwnstar: you pretty much explained exactly how i feel about boy v. girl. We found out at 16 weeks with 99% certainty and i still refused to believe it wasn't a boy until it was confirmed again at 20 weeks! And yet, now, i know how awesome girls are so i want another, even though i know I'd be thrilled with one of each.

@pwnstar: it's the first time I'm thinking of gender like this! We really want a girl because we don't have one and I personally really want a mother daughter relationship, maybe because my mom is my best friend. But, our son is SO loving and adorable and we keep saying that we hope the new baby is loving also. I fell asleep last night with DS (20 mnths) caressing my cheek and often wake up to cheek to cheek rubs and kisses. Another boy like that would be awesome too! Thanks for the perspective - I think you just gave me special insight to avoid gender disappointment regardless of which we're having.

@MrsRcCar: Oh man... I'm praying everything turns out to be ok!

@Glitter: @coopsmama: The doctors office seems sure that it is just the hematoma causing the intermittent spotting. We have been shut in all week and my boys are going stir crazy. We are generally very active outside the house. Plus my butt and back hurt from resting up so much. I just want everything to be ok.

@MrsRcCar: hoping all is okay!

@MrsRcCar: You're not the only one doing a lot of screen time! We have 3 ft of snow so my kids refuse to go outside and I've been feeling so crummy what with morning sickness that we've been in a LOT the last couple weeks and oh my goodness have had way too much tv time.

Quite honestly I think it's just survival mode during times like these!

@MrsSCB: wow I can't imagine how light movement could cause such a disturbance... but then again ive never lived in a downstairs apartment. Have you spoken to your neighbours directly about it?

@coopsmama: You can keep all that snow! I don't blame you for the screen time either. It rained here this morning.
@MrsSCB: I am hoping it ends soon too. I am the downstairs neighbor in an apartment. I swear there are elephants that live above us! The other night the women upstairs decided to vacuum at 10:30pm. I was not pleased at all. I hate this complex, but I haven't found another place to move into yet.

@Pirouette: We do have carpet in the bedroom (which is where I would be at 4-6 am). I'm a bit frustrated with the leasing office. They called me on the phone two nights ago to say our neighbors said we were stomping around in the middle of the night. I sent them a long email yesterday morning to say we tiptoe around our apartment if we are up at all at a late hour, we are going above and beyond to be quiet and conscientious, and the noise complaints have become such a source of anxiety that I literally cringe if I accidentally drop something on the floor at any time of day. Then I just get an email this morning with another complaint, and the leasing office said, "If indeed it is just heavy walking causing the disturbance, all we can ask if that you are aware and conscious of the way that you walk around your apartment home during quiet hours." I feel like they aren't even listening! I already told them I walk very quietly, barefoot, on carpet, and I only weigh 120 pounds -- how much noise could I make?! At this point I just feel like I'm being harassed by these people into unreasonable actions. I wish we could just leave, but ughhhh the idea of moving all our stuff AGAIN after just five months is pretty unbearable.

@MrsRcCar: ugh, vacuuming that late is just rude! If I have to vacuum on a weekday, I do it as soon as I get home from work (around 5:30.) Plus I hate vacuuming so I just want to get it out of the way

@Pirouette: my Dh is so good at being like, "They're unreasonable, so I don't even care." I need to get better at that...I know this whole thing is ridiculous, but I'm such a people-pleaser it makes me feel stressed all the same. I need to practice my zen attitude... And I do hope they move!

@agold: it goes from pink to brown here. I am just hoping rest this weekend with DH home will resolves this all together.

Gosh, I can barely keep up! So many TG in this group! I think July also has a ton. As I said before, we did that last time, and I really really want to find out this time for name/bonding/telling DS purposes.

@agold: I'm going to answer your question about prepping for a med-free birth. I wasn't sure I was going to go for that. I went in with an open mind. My insurance/medical practice gives free birth classes. So DH and I took one about birth techniques called "Tools to Active Birth" -- a one-time 3-hr class on a Saturday. After that class, I knew so many more options other than just lay on your back in bed, and it was really helpful to be able to try different things until it stopped working. Then you switch to another thing. The class was also great because we met another couple and clicked! Their son was born a week before ours, and we've hung out ever since. So I'd recommend an in-person class if you can. Usually the people going are due in a similar range.

The medical practice is large, and I could have had any one of 16 doctors on delivery day, and I only have appointments with my own OB and never meet any of the others throughout pregnancy! So, in the 2nd tri, we also hired a doula because DH and I wanted to have someone advocate for us who we would know ahead of time. I ended up laboring at home through most of active labor, so the doula only met us at the hospital. She was helpful in the L&D room. DH wants to hire one again just for his peace of mind. I'm not opposed if it will help him feel better, but I'm also not sure it's essential.

I hope that helps answer your question?

@MrsRcCar: No discussion yet about names. We had fairly short lists last time around -- was nearly impossible to find a boy name we both loved. I figure we'll start talking about it again once we know a) baby is healthy and b) what we're having. I LOVE that you have a secret stash of girl clothes!

I'm sorry you're still spotting, but thrilled DH will be home this w/e. Hang in there and let me know if there's anything I can send your way to help.

@silva: Gorgeous bump!

@glitter: You and your family are GORGEOUS. Saw your pic on the other thread about whether LO looks like either of you. I think there's a little mix in there I'm so glad you've found something that's working to ease the nausea. I love, LOVE being a boy mom. I'd be lying if a little part of me didn't want a girl -- manis! pedis! bows! braids! bonding! -- but then I think about how I was as a teenager and then shudder in fear! I'm hoping my sweet boy turns into a kind and caring young man. All this to say I'd be thrilled with another boy, too! Think about all the re-use of clothing

@MrsSCB: UGH. Apartment living sucks sometimes. Didn't someone else on HB just post something about crappy noisy neighbors? You sound completely opposite of them. Are your downstairs neighbors expecting you to float? Zipline from your bed to the bathroom? Dude. You're light. You're pregnant. You will need to pee. Jerks. You may need to just become more zen about not letting it get to you, especially since you're already doing what the office wants. As @Pirouette: said, maybe THEY'LL move

How's everyone else doing? @dcw6411: ?

Deep Cover Sweater Chronicles, Day 5

@pregnantbee: Cute outfit!!

@MrsRcCar: @dcw6411: I'm praying for all three of us that this darn bleeding/spotting stops. No bright red and no clots are both great things. Let's just hope pink and brown is the worst of it.

@pwnstar: Thanks for your comment!

@pregnantbee: Wow! Thanks for all of that information. That's amazing your insurance offered a free class. I'm going to have to call my insurance soon to find out what I can take advantage of. Its so great you and your husband met a couple that you both like at the class. I always think that new great friends are worth their weight in gold. I'm sure I could get my husband to go to a few classes. I just need to find the time myself! (speaking of which.. my work is not cooperating with my attempt to work from home. oh how i'm ready to retire and be a stay at home mom.) And I absolutely think it makes sense why you wanted a doula with the possibility of getting a doctor you didn't know. Lastly, you are on fleek with those sweaters! Keep it up!

@MrsSCB: UGH! So frustrating! I would honestly ignore it if you're doing the best that you can

@MrsSCB: Yep, like @HLK208: said, I would just totally ignore your lame downstairs neighbors. But maybe leave your window opens when your baby cries and give a little stomp of your foot every now and then just good measure.

@mrschickpea: Yum! Nothing healthy has appealed to me in about a month! I kinda want my unhealthy cravings to be done so I don't end up 50 lbs. heavier by the end!

And I suddenly have a bump. Only 7w4d...

Currently sipping on a Coke. We've got company coming over in 50 minutes and I feel like garbage and spent the afternoon vomiting (despite eating all day and what not) and I feel SO bad about the Coke but it is what it is!!

@pregnantbee: the sweater chronicles are the best! Seriously you're a magician!
I wore what felt like a moomoo to barre3 today cause the bump is super obvious (to me) in leggings. Luckily we are going through a cold spell (for the desert, it's in the 40s) so I can pull out all my sweaters and scarves!
@mrsrccar- I want a cherry Coke now, like nobodies business!!