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Anyone else stressing about daycare? I feel like I should be on waitlists already, but researching, calling, and visiting places practically seems like a full time job! I don't know how I'm supposed to find time to do all this during working hours

@MrsSCB: I hope you're able to find a great daycare you feel comfortable with. I SAH so this isn't a consideration for me but I know I would be stressed to the hilt if I were having to look! Childcare is so important.

@MrsSCB: At this time, no. However that is simply due to the fact that I went through that already when finding daycare 4 years ago for my son. I loved it there, so the easiest thing now was to ask them if there's space for #2. And while they have infant care at DS's school, it's so much more expensive than where we had sent him before school. It will mean two drops and picks, but saving money is worth it.

It's totally overwhelming but I figured out several ways to make it easier to handle:

- Google a list of questions to ask any potential daycare provider. There are some great ones out there, and reading them ahead of time will also help you figure out what you are looking for. For example, a dealbreaker for me was if they had TV at all. I also wanted to make sure they didn't just put the baby in a bouncer all day. I wanted there to be plenty of holding and interaction.

- Can you see if there's an official list of licensed centers and in-home daycare providers provided by your city? My city had that, and it was great! You'll also need to decide whether you'd want to go with a larger center or smaller home or facility. We loved the home daycare we chose bc it was much more flexible than a center. Prices for home care tend to be lower, too!

- Obviously you will need to factor in availability, cost, and location. Also decide whether you'd like it to be closer to work, home, between, etc. After all that, it really came down to gut feeling and whether there were enough positives to outweigh the negatives. We only looked at 2 places and then just knew which was right.

Good luck! You'll find something even while working FT. You can try to visit at lunch times if it's close enough. The other good part is that if you start and it isn't the right fit, you can change.

@mrschickpea: @Silva: @coopsmama: Thanks ladies!!

@ShootingStar: true, my lo was born in December, but she's so small I have clothes for all weather in all sizes haha. But it gets cold quickly in ny and I'm guessing my lo won't grow too fast either so he'll probably wear small winter clothes too!

@dcw6411: I'm not feeling much either. Very sporadically I feel a roll or a pop but that's it. I think I'm just so busy sadly to notice much more.

We will have LO1 start K and the new baby is on the list already for our current preschool. So luckily our costs won't change much. But we have to figure out how to do drop offs at two different schools.

@dcw6411: @pregnantbee: I'm 17 weeks now, and I'm not feeling anything either. This is my second, so I thought I would feel something sooner. I do have an anterior placenta this time, so maybe that has something to do with it. I've thought a couple of times that I've felt something, but I'm not 100% positive.

@pwnstar: @pregnantbee: thanks very much for the good advice! I've started making a list of the places that would be convenient for dropoff. I think I'll do the preliminary work of calling to find out about wait lists and costs and then do more research to narrow down using some state and city websites. Coincidentally, most of them are closer to my husband's work, so looks like daycare delivery may be his job. I told him that and was like, "I can swing by at lunch and we can watch cartoons and eat cookies together." lol

I told my coworker yesterday (she and I will be running our department after my boss leaves). She was excited and said she was suspicious because I'd stopped eating from the salad bar so much, haha. I still haven't told my new supervisor and I'm really nervous. My coworker said I shouldn't be, because our new supervisor has a toddler herself so will probably be understanding. I hope she's right! It's nice to have someone at work to talk to about it now at least.

@MrsSCB: You're welcome! I'm sure you will end up with someplace great Hooray for telling your coworker! I loved having at least one insider. And salad is still gross for me at almost 18w!

@agold: Totally ok. You just dont want the baby's temp (being in the water) or your own body temp to raise too high.

I think they say actually 99* and under is pretty safe.

OMG. Bizarre moment. My husband had one long term girlfriend other than myself. It didn't end well so we aren't friends with her on social media, obviously. However, we have a mutual friend and today on Instagram I saw she had commented on that friend's picture. I clicked over just in the offhand chance her profile is public...and it is. And she's due the same week as me, just two days later. The irony is just hilarious to me.

@agold: Totally fine.

@coopsmama: Crazy!

@T.H.O.U.: That sounds like a great plan!

@coopsmama: That is crazy! Are you guys in the same city?

Ugh. Ive been having a painful but dull ache in my uterus for the past several hours. I'm trying to rest on the couch, but that's not easy with a toddler around. I called the doc, and they agreed it's probably muscular-skeletal and to just take it easy. I think over did it this morning moving/stacking a bunch of wood, and then my usual walk on the treadmill.

@Silva: I have felt that way all day today, too, so knowing you feel the same is somewhat comforting. Probably just more stretching going on in there!

@mrschickpea: a pillow between the legs/knees solves all kinds of pregnancy problems! Try it!

@mrschickpea: I get great sciatica relief by putting my legs up on a wall. Scooch your butt up as close to the wall as you can and put your legs straight up. I lie like that for about 15-20minutes. Just be careful getting up!

So I didn't really publicly announce this pregnancy until 15.5 weeks, which doesn't seem odd to me at all. But a gal from my church tonight came up and said, pointing to my belly, "so how far along are you?" And when I told her 16 weeks she said, "so did you just not realize you were pregnant for that long or what?!" Reallyyyy???? Nope. No. Just didn't know I had to make that public knowledge until I felt like it, sheesh.

@agold: I have been taking warm baths for about 10 minutes--my OB said it was fine for a bunch of reasons, like I wasn't totally submerged and the water cools off quickly. I feel like my body temp actually gets hotter when I just take a regular long shower, but it's still freaky to do anything that seems like it falls under a prohibited category. but I agree with everyone else, I think this is totally fine! also is your gender reveal tonight?!

@coopsmama: wtf? and here she is, I was wondering who she was: this is the woman who has no trouble getting pregnant and carrying viably.

@pwnstar: NO WAY! no - my only Bhs happened the day i went into labor last time (37.5 weeks). I woke up with intense abdominal cramps last night so am trying not to get worried something is wrong