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@MsMini: Thanks for that Msmini! You just made me feel so much better. My gut is telling me not to put anything in my body that will harm my peanut. I dont want her being hypoglycemic at birth and am working really hard to prevent either of us needing insulin!!
Youre also so right about the court date. It just sucked getting both those calls back to back.
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I was told any kind of proper meal should get babies moving enough for usual purposes. Have your normal healthy breakfast!
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@volksgirl64: I had the feeling like my hip socket was going to pop out, but I chalked it up to over-stretching during my yoga video. I've actually had the same problem with my hip about 8 years ago with dance, and I had to get it fixed by a hands-on physiotherapist. Luckily, the hip thing seems to have fixed itself. But here's my new feeling:
Today I actually feel like my pubis (the front bony part of the pelvis in the middle) was separating. It was happening when I was doing deep knee bends in dance teaching. It didn't hurt, but it just felt like a stretching in a brand new place. I can still feel it. I think baby is dropping and the pelvic girdle is on the move. Kindof exciting.
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@winniebee: I appreciate your comment about the woman beside you in the hospital who didn't get an epidural. Between that and our expert Ms.Mini opting for an epidural, I am totally leaning that way. I know I shouldn't care what other people think, but I had a lot of 'hippie' friends in Vancouver (where we used to live) who were super against epidurals and all gave birth without them. I feel like they will be judgy of my epidural.....but I shouldn't care what other people think....and yet the thought is there.
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@Goldilocks1107: I think I'd like to get some new PJs for the hospital too. The chick in the delivery video looked horrible in a Nike shirt...maybe her husband's big shirt? It is shallow, but I vowed to wear something more flattering. I packed my black bikini for the jacuzzi tub. Now I need to get some new PJs too that are guest appropriate. I won't spend a lot of money. 2 weeks ago when I was in the hospital with the kidney stone I started thinking about the want for new pajamas.
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@Nskillet: icy water does the trick for me (and that is so irresponsible of them to tell you to have sugar!)
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@MsMini: Porche Boxter Grandma car! How sweet!!!! Enjoy the time with your Mom! My Mom is coming to visit this weekend too....for my shower.
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@Nskillet: Sounds like a very stressful coworker! And... you can just eat tuna. Mmm. I dunno, chili makes the baby kick a lot, but for an NST isn't supposed to just measure normal levels?
And... you have to go to court for that? I hope I don't have to go to court for mine! Yuck!
@cvbee: You never really know what you can handle until you're in the moment--and then it's too late. Glad you don't have to pee all the time.
@goldilocks: Sucks. My hubby is like that too--he'll do one thing and complain like hell about it, and I'll do 10 things and he won't think it was anything at all. He's a bum.
Glad your hospital bag is packed! That's one of my next tasks.
@marriedandlovingit: Yay! You found a pediatrician. That's a tough one! We're "lucky" and don't have a choice so we don't have to search at all.
@winniebee: I'm trying hard not to stress--and at work (over lunch) I told my coworkers how frustrated I am that my clinic keeps lecturing me about my weight, and they said "eat more, you'll gain enough if you eat more!" Funny (and sweet) that they thought they were yelling at me for not gaining enough.
Congrats on making it a week since your hospital visit!!
And your MIL's food sounds wonderful--so cool.
@volksgirl64: I have been having that exact same achey pain at the very bottom of my belly.
@jennylynn & nskillet: I don't know which are the real and which are the BH contractions--I am going to the doctor on Friday, so I can tell you about it then. I really think I'm having contractions still. I'm trying to explain to my DH about the difficulty of 3rd tri. He almost gets it when I remind him.
@Mrsdaredevil: I'm so sorry your hubby is being so insensitive! My husband read the "prepared guide" and since then is being a lot more understanding of healing and "normal" postpartum feelings and activities.
@duckduckkristen: Yay growth scan! Sounds like baby is doing really well.
@everyone: Target has nursing bras in how many sizes? Can I find them all online? I think I may still be stuck at specialty stores. Darn huge boobs. -
As for me, things still hurt and I keep getting the feeling that baby is going to show up any second now--even though it's about 8 weeks away. Why do I think that so much?
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@cvbee: Well if you didn't feel like dealing with the judgement, you don't actually have to tell them:) they won't be in there with you, and I'd imagine the staff won't blab! Nobody's business how you deliver.
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@cvbee: I keep going back and forth on going natural. I think it will be one of those things I will only know what I want when I am in that situation. Childbirth is such a personal thing. What is right for some, isn't right for others. It's too bad that your friends don't understand that. There is nothing wrong with getting an epidural or going natural.
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@winniebee: That feast sounds incredible! How sweet of her to come over and help out like that!
@duckduckkristen: How tall are you? It pays off to be tall in pregnancy I guess!
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The random pains are picking up this week. I keep getting that stinging sensation in my cervix as well as just a painful feeling down there that comes and goes at random times. Walking has now become painful. Ugh, and I have 5 weeks left of this? The thought of it makes me cringe.
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@pastemoo: I'm a 38D/DD and their XL bras fit me and they also have XXL. I found more of a selection in store than online, but they do have a lot online. They also have some that go up to 40DD, but I haven't seen any bigger than that.
@marriedandlovingit: I've always planned on going natural, but of course I'm afraid I'll be in so much pain I'll find I change my mind and want the epidural. My husband keeps telling me if I say I'm going natural, he wants to support me so he won't let me get an epidural, no matter how much I beg. We're going to have to work that out somehow!
@marriedandlovingit: I'm 5 ft 9in and yes, I'm finding it definitely does pay off to be tall in pregnancy, except that I just looked chubby instead of pregnant until a few weeks ago! haha.
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@duckduckkristen: My husband says that too about the epidural. He says he is FORCING me to stick to our birth plan... and I will thank him later when I am not delirious with pain!
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@Nskillet: Your welcome!
@cvbee: I have had some weird hip/pelvic sensations lately as well, like aching and feeling like everything is quite loose all of a sudden. It is very strange, and sometimes I feel like I am just not as stable as usual. My Mom is a lucky lady I tell you! Enjoy your visit with your Mom with weekend (and your shower!).
@marriedandlovingit: The stinging cervix makes me alternatively excited and nervous, I am happy to know that things are coming along, and nervous because I know we have so much still to get ready, we can't accommodate an early arrival at this time (LOL)!
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Girls you can't make a plan that includes your DH forcing anything. You just don't know what will happen on the day. You're essentially putting part of your safety in his hands at a very serious time. There doesn't seem to be any such thing as a concrete birth plan, from what I can see- and first and foremost, it's your body a baby is coming out of. Not his. You're neither incompetent nor imbeciles and if you find the pain unbearable then why shouldn't you have the epi? My SIL was v unlucky with her first, her pelvis was the wrong shape for her ten pound son's head and she went through excruciating pain during delivery, and a full year of physio after. If DH had tried insisting on no epi I think he'd have needed one himself to ease the damage she'd have done to him!
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@aunt pol: I like your strongly-worded post, and I'm really thinking about your idea that "it's not a moral decision, it's pain relief".
So interesting that pain relief and values are totally at the forefront in labour. I know when I was in with my kidney pain and they suggested morphine I felt so bad about exposing my baby to morphine, but was a bit relieved when the emerg people said that the OB on the phone also said to take the morphine. We're all trying to do the 'right' thing, you know?
It was about a month ago when DH asked me if I'm trying to do it without an epidural (and he has been majorly influenced by our hippie friends who talked all the time about how bad epidurals are....making it a moral thing for sure). I didn't want him thinking that I was falling short of a goal if I went for an epidural. And I do think that those friends from the west coast will flat-out ask us if I went for an epidural. I just need to get over the judgy thing and be okay with it if epidural is what I end up doing.
And with all this talk about DH's not understanding has made me think about my DH. I think the birth classes, even though they are boring, have been good for him in being more sensitive to my needs. It's not been a miracle, but just the little things. Now, having said that, he also now takes what is said in those classes as the be-all and end-all. For example, he got all worried when I chose to eat a sub for lunch with the lunch meat thing. My response: I avoided the lunch meat all this time, and then when I was in the hospital they fed me a ham sandwich, so I'm over it.
Anyways, so far it looks like no work for me today so I'll be stalking this thread all day.
PS. Just noticed I finally got an avitar! Thanks Winniebee for the tips on how to get it.
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@cvbee: Sounds like your body is making some serious progress!! It might be nice for you to have a day of work, then a day off, etc, so you can feel like you are not working yourself so hard AND you can get baby stuff done in pieces : )
@marriedandlovingit: I'm not sure if I'm getting cervix pushes (LO's hands are down there) or what but last night I got some pain down there.
@pastemoo: Because of the internets! And hearing all these stories about women going into labor early! Try to remember that most women make it to 39 wks, and you probably will, too!
@Nskillet: Ugh what a day!! Well, the good news about the NST is you get to hear baby's heartbeat for quite awhile! Also, before mine, they just had me chug some water and that can wake baby up.
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The whole epidural v. not epidural debate is just fascinating to me - and the fact that people OTHER than the parents always have opinions about what is best. I'm probably a B, but I told my husband he doesn't get a say since he's not birthing the child. He doesn't have strong views on it either way (and seems supportive of my decision to get one). And I stayed out of the great circumcision debate - his domain, not mine ; )
So, my OB called yesterday and said that it would be OK for me to go to my shower this Sunday! We moved it to my sister's house (only 15 mins away whereas my mother's is an hour plus away) and I'm supposed to remain on my duff with legs elevated or reclined. I am going to be nervous to leave the house, but excited to see everyone....and let me tell you how many baby showers I threw and attended for friends and family over the years (and while we were TTC!)
OB also said to stay conservative and mostly lay around (rather than sit around) until my fetal survey on Tuesday. I like having these little benchmarks where things can be re-evaluated. Today DH is home this afternoon - hooray, company! Also, tomorrow morning, my friend is visiting (she has Fridays off).
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@MsMini: Your mom is gonna be a hot grannie! So awesome! Where did you get your wall decal?
@MissDareDevil: For baby, I think I'm just going to pack two outfits - one preemie (don't have yet) and one newborn sized. Along with a cotton hat, cotton mittens, and socks. Also, a few burp cloths and a boppy. I responded to your DH's comments on the other thread you posted.
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@aunt pol: My DH isn't "forcing" me into anything. He's a physician, has delivered babies, and is all for epidurals, but since I said *I* would like to do it naturally, he just wants to be supportive in the delivery room of whatever I choose. He knows it's not his decision whether or not I get pain relief. I'm not against epidurals either - personally I just don't like the idea of a needle in my back and not being able to feel my bottom half, but I may see things differently when it's actually happening. Strangely, multiple OBs have told me I have a "large pelvis" and should have no problem (I guess that's a compliment?). My mom had an 11 pounder with no pain relief, so I'm hoping I could do the same!
@winniebee: YAY for being able to go to your shower!
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@duckduckkristen: ELEVEN pounder with no pain relief!?!? Wowsa! My MIL told me the other day that in the 70's she had a "rectal splitting episiotomy" with her first (8 lb baby, but MIL is 5 feet tall and 100 pounds soaking wet) of course without pain meds. Now THAT scares me.
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@duckduckkristen: it sounds like you do have genetics on your side so. I was specifically responding to the 'forcing' bit in Daredevil's post, it scared me a little! But you did say 'even if I beg for it' - my point is, I really don't think there's anything wrong with you changing your mind in the moment, and to be honest your DH's career should mean he knows that! Sorry if I came off a bit strong there.
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@winniebee: DH was a ten pounder and his mum is five foot nothing too, and she said he was actually the easiest, two of his sisters were tiny and had complications and those labours were apparently far harder. I guess we're all just made different...
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@winniebee: YES! and almost had him on the kitchen floor. She went with an epidural for her next baby, because she figured after having 3 big babies she deserved it.
My tiny little 5ft tall grandma had 8 kids naturally too. "Rectal splitting episiotomy" sounds absolutely terrifying!@aunt pol: I don't think there is anything wrong with changing your mind in the moment either, but I do feel strongly about not getting an epidural and I'm glad he is so supportive. I can understand him saying he won't let me get an epidural "even if I beg" because he's afraid I'd be upset with him after for letting me get one. So, I'll have to discuss with him how we will deal with it if I change my mind in the moment.
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@cvbee - I had always said that I would go drug free as long as possible and I had my doubts that an epi was a good thing. But then someone told me that "you don't get a medal for not getting one" and that really brought it home for me. It was about getting my daughter out the best way possible and in the end, that meant getting an epi and a few hours of rest before pushing.
@pastemoo - my pain in my abdomen seemed to lessen after I had a BM yesterday (sorry!). I haven't exactly been regular lately so I think maybe my body was angry with me.
@winniebee - so happy that you'll be able to attend your shower!
@Goldilocks1107 - I want to get a nightgown for the hospital too! I've been looking on etsy but I'm not sure what I want. With DD I just spent the whole time in a nursing bra and the hosp. gown
Welp, after physically getting down on my hands & knees last night to scrub up paint drips, the nursery is back together! The walls are still SUPER bright to me but I think I just need to get used to it. And there's really nothing on the walls yet, just furniture in the room. So we'll work on that over the next few weeks.
I also want to paint her letters (to spell the name we've chosen) and get those on the wall but I still don't want to share the name yet. Anyone else hesitant to reveal the name??OT: Is anyone watching Smash? I HATE that assistant guy (Ellis) and yell at the tv every single time he's on it. DH thinks I'm ridiculous. But what a weasel!
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@winniebee - my dad was something crazy like 12lbs and they had to break my grandma's pelvis to get him out! They broke his arm too.
Oh, and he had teeth! They pulled them in the hospital and later he got his normal baby teeth and then adult teeth.
I always think, "Geez, how long was he in there, like 18 months?!"
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@volksgirl64: That's great that the nursery is getting close to done!
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@volksgirl64: TEETH!?!? OMG! Glad your nursery is done but stop with the hands and knees action, would ya???
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@volksgirl64: I'm not sharing the name either....we do have a hat and onesie with his name on it packed away in the hospital bag. If we were doing letters in the room (which we aren't because nursey is in our room and walls are sloped) I wouldn't put them up, but would get them ready.
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@winniebee: glad you get to go to your shower!
And I give all of you girls props for even thinking about going without an epidural. I'd like to think I'm tough enough to hold out, but I'm not holding myself to any specific plan. I'm just going to do what feels right in the moment, and I'm guessing when the contractions get intense, I'm gonna be wanting that epi ;).
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@duckduckkristen: Good to know! I'll be checking out Target lingerie soon.
@Nskillet: That sucks about the NST - and crappy receptionist lady. I really wish they'd give office staff more information about what to say/not to say, especially when they don't know what they're talking about!
@cvbee: I ended up picking up my PJs at Marshall's. Cute 2-piece set for $25, which I figure is worth it since it's soft and I'll probably wear it after I get home too (only wearing at hospital for visitors after delivery).
As for the epidural, I'm open to getting one, but want to wait as long as I can because I really want to be able to walk around while I'm in labor. That's the trade off, I guess: mobility vs. pain relief. Oh well.
Last night I was thinking 7.5 weeks is a LONG time, Then I broke it out into mini-milestones we have coming up:
4/12: work baby shower (2 weeks from today!)
4/22: family/friends baby shower
5/4: closing on the house (but not moving in)
5/19: DH's birthday
5/21: Due date
When I look at it that way, I only have 2 weeks between some pretty big events and 7.5 weeks isn't long at all! -
@Goldilocks1107: I feel the same way. It seems like 6 weeks is forever, but we have so much coming up too so it should go by fast! Shower, Easter, DHs birthday, get together w/his family, and a week in the Poconos, not to mention just getting everything ready for the baby's arrival!
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@Goldilocks1107: Tell me about it! I made the decision to email my nutritionist at the hospital about the instructions I was provided. If she agrees it's ok I'll proceed but otherwise I'm trying to minimize how much my already big baby grows till she comes out!
I'm with everyone else on pain management. Totally up to Mom! You need a supportive partner to help you advocate when you're in child birth though. My husband is PRO epidural lol. I don't know how I'm going to end up yet though. Due to babies size and my GD I'm at a much higher risk for C section. DH also seems fairly convinced baby Abbey is showing up early. So, we will see! 34 weeks this Sunday and then only 6 weeks left. My OB did already confirm I will not to later than 40 weeks. It'll be induction or c section most likely at 39 weeks so maybe it's only 5? Wow! I just can't wait to be on maternity leave.
We also picked our pediatrician yesterday. The doctor we met with was amazing, forth coming, and professional. Scratch another item off my list!
I really need to start packing a hospital bag soon though huh...
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We're still looking for a daycare provider - we're going with an in-home daycare instead of a daycare/preschool center (mainly due to cost).
Last night I talked to a lady who has 7 kids and has been running a daycare in her home for decades. When you count raising her own kids, she has 30 years experience. She sounded super nice and I was excited that she has an opening for an infant at the end of August (right around when my maternity leave is up). We meet with her on Monday - fingers crossed that she's as great in person as she was over the phone! -
Wow! These boards are so active it is awesome--why did I stay over at WB for so long?
@aunt pol: Can I just say I love reading your posts? They make me laugh every time! Some of the words you use I have never seen before in my life, but I think that's why I like them so much! And I get what you are saying about the pain relief being the woman's choice. Absolutley. However, I really want someone who knows my birth plan and I what I want (DH) to be in the room encouraging me. Too many times I hear of women who go into the birth wanting to do all natural, but they have nurses constantly asking them "are you sure you don't want an epi?" "okay, now's your last time to get an epi," and with all of the badgering, they just cave in and get it. That is something I do NOT want to happen to me! I believe strongly that my DH will encourage me and remind me that I can do it. This is what my body was made for! If I have someone telling me these things instead of constantly asking me if I want pain medication, I really think it is something that I can do.
I get everyone's sides on the pain-free/natural birth debate, but natural is something that is very important to me. Although you don't win a medal for going natural, I think it is something that is very empowering for a woman. My body was made to do this, and I think that pain is part of the whole experience. Birth is a natural part of life that most of the time does not need to be interfered with by medical technology. My mom delivered five kids naturally, and has told me on numerous occasions that she would do it five more times if she had to.
Also, moving around during labor and using gravity on my side during delivery are also very important to me. I would not be able to do these things with an epi.
I do understand, however, that my birth plan may not happen. With my medical issues, I understand that induction/early delivery/piotcin are all possibilities. If either of those happen, I guess we will just play the rest by ear.@cvbee: I do agree with and understand your feeling pressured or judged by your "hippie" friends to go natural. Here in Seattle, there is also a huge movement for natural deliveries. I get how you could feel judged, because I know numerous people that would give me a real headache if I chose to go with an epi or even worse; an elective C. But as other PPs have said, how we choose to deliver is really not anyone's business!
@winniebee: So exciting that you get to go to your shower! I can't wait to hear all about it. Even if you are on your duff, you are going to have a wonderful time!
@Nskillet: I have not started packing my hospital bag yet either. I am just not sure exactly what I will need and I tend to overpack for everything. Knowing me I will probably end up with a huge suitcase with a pair of high heels in it!
I also haven't made it to the store yet to buy travel sized toiletries.Tonight we have an open house with a pediatrician. Anxious to see how she is. She is out of the same office that DH went to his whole life...hopefully we love her!
Pretty much every single time I get up from sitting down for an extended period of time, I feel like a bowling ball is about to fall out of my vagina. There is SO much pressure and weight sitting on top of my pelvis... it has to be one of the most uncomfortable things ever! People keep telling me to get a "pregnancy belt," but I don't know if that will help. Anyone heard anything about those?
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@Mrsdaredevil: My cousin used a pregnancy belt when she was pregnant with her twins, and she said it really helped her with her random aches and pains. I haven't used one personally, so I don't know.
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Last night I learned my lesson about being too active ... I had been running up and down the stairs all day long doing laundry, and doing quite a bit of cleaning, and I had a ton of contractions last night before bed, and into the night a bit. I was considering going into LDR for assessment, but they ended up resolving on their own after a few hours. I will definitely behave myself more in the next few days.
@winniebee: I got my decal from an Etsy seller ... It is a huge decal, it is to go over one whole wall of the nursery, but every tree, branch, leaf, and bird/owl is separate!
@volksgirl64: That is a terrifying story ... 12 pounds, broken pelvis, broken arm, and teeth to boot!
@Goldilocks1107: When you break it down, it looks like time is going to fly for you!
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@volksgirl64: broken pelvis? i wonder what kind of recovery that was for her. do they still do that anymore?
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