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@cookie_dough: DDs converts to a double (well, just a double headboard really), but before that converts to one that essentially takes the front "wall" of the crib off (and we'd do a rail there or something?) is that a toddler bed?

We have all the other furniture we could need, I already took rocker out of DDs room, we have too many dresser's in the basement, so I figure we will strip and refinish one (or two!) to whatever crib colour we buy and ensure we buy a convertible (to double head board or frame) so then it would be an easy switch to "big kid" bedroom furniture for #2? We bought DDs crib on credit card points, it was the only furniture we didn't already have or buy used to re-finish and I am thinking we'll just do that again, it worked, so why not I guess.

Hope your appt goes well tomorrow and no more colour on the wipe!

@Mae: You're in such a tough spot with no policy, I definitely see all the hands/sides. It would be great if he reacted amazingly and it works out well for both of you -and your family!

@MamaCate: Talk to me about floor beds! I hadn't heard of the idea until being on here on HB and I love the idea, but based on our experience with DD I just couldn't imagine, but from the start had she not known any different I am sure she'd be fine! DH would never be on board, but I always love hearing about how it works, she doesn't wander? DD would be evvvverywhere I feel like, lol.

@tarabonno: Welcome back! So exciting that you got to tell everyone!

@MamaCate: Good luck at your appointment today!

@Beebug: We are planning to have the baby in our room for the first 6 months in either a cradle or pnp, depending on whatever works better for the new LO (DS hated the cradle). That should give us some time to figure out the crib situation. At that point we'll have a better idea if DS is ready for a toddler bed or if we need another crib. Even though DS's crib converts to both toddler bed and full size, I think it's really girlie looking so I will probably get him a new bed when he is ready anyway. If we have a girl I'll definitely give her his crib and will probably find DS another crib that also converts.

@Beebug: I'm jealous that you have so much furniture to use! We only have a little bookshelf for her new room, we have to buy everything else. And of course DH and I can't agree on anything for her room...colours, theme (not that it NEEDS a theme hahaha). I wanted to do kind of a bird theme, with decals of trees on the wall, etc. He hates the idea. booo

@MamaCate: I second @Beebug's question about floor beds! I'm very curious about how it "contains" your LO! DD doesn't move around a lot in her crib and doesn't even try to stand in it, but I feel like with no railings she would just be into EVERYTHING in her room!

@Mae: what a tough situation I really hope that he takes it well and that you can relax once you've told him. It must be such a stressor to worry about how he's going to react.

I'm not allowed to tell anyone in real life, but I'm pretty sure I can tell you guys...my sister just told me yesterday that she's pregnant! This will be her first and she will be due exactly one month after me! so excited She doesn't live in the same city as me so the cousins won't get to see each other THAT often, but still fun that they will be uber close in age (provided that everything goes well for both of us, of course).

@Mae: I would think that if he seems so pro-family that it wouldn't hurt to tell him whenever you're ready. If you are going to be seeing him it might be difficult to hide until Christmas. Last time I wanted to wait until after our yearly reviews were complete because I was due for a promotion but I ended up having to tell before then and was given the promotion anyway and a really great bonus on top of it. I know not everyone was so lucky with telling work, but it does not always have to be a bad thing!

@skipra: You know I totally forget that babes won't even be in the their room for the first bit! We switched DD to crib at 10w. We had been across the country visiting DHs family from 9-10w and decided when we got back to just switch her, will be interesting to see if we do the same timing again, or if we keep him/her in longer.

I have ears that hear everything (it's mostly annoying, but great as a parent for the most part) so baby in the room was tough for me, I never slept, I needed the bit of distance to relax a little. I can't even have the monitor on, the buzz of it drives me nuts and I can hear everything on my own anyways.

@cookie_dough: I have all my kid room furniture, so I think it will get stripped (it's like a yellow/natural finish) but I am not sure which colour we'll go with. YAY about your sister, but boo about distance! Both my SILs are in Nova Scotia, so same boat with cousins not really getting to know each other, which sucks! My sister is 8 years younger and no where near babies yet...or ever, lol.

I think I need to start a secret pinterest board.....! I want to have some fun with ideas! I did start "other bedroom" one like a year ago, but adding things too it now would be foolishly obvious.

Okay, glad I am not alone with the dreams -crazy detailed, like really either scary or inappropriate ones, WEIRD.

@mrsog: I sleep exactly like that too, and sometimes flat on my stomach. I googled it hahaha. Said that it would become uncomfortable long before it became dangerous. It's sleeping on your back that you are supposed to avoid.

@Beebug: We are going to have to buy all new furniture for LO#2 as well. I am hoping to keep DS in his crib as long as possible! haha.

Sleep is tough for me as well. I'm exhausted but have a hard time staying asleep. I never napped with my first, but now I feel like I could nap all day! Ugh. The nausea this time is also way worse...

Arrggghhhh... talked to my doctor this a.m. because I wanted to get a sense for what I will be testing for at my appointment on the 22nd. Turns out it will only be a finger prick test. They will do blood tests and then I have to come back 1.5 weeks later to do the actual NT scan. Here I was counting down days to being able to tell all. Guess I have 3 more weeks!

@Coopersmama: how far along are you? I have an appt on the 22nd for my NT scan also and they said I do the finger prick at the same time. I will be 12w1d when I go.
I also have an appointment next week with my OB for a checkup.

@Coopersmama: The way you're feeling is totally natural in my opinion. It doesn't get easier with your second or third child either. It's just a really scary thing to have a tiny precious life inside of you, that possibly could go away at any given time. But after the baby starts kicking, you will feel a lot better and more secure (except when you don't feel the baby moving for a few hours, and run to the doctor's for an ultrasound in a panic, only to see the baby moving like crazy on the screen, not that I did that )

@Coopersmama: every time I feel something different I panic. or if I stop feeling something I previously had. It is a crazy thing not being in control of something that is SO important to us. My mom is really good at keeping me level headed and whenever I start to feel irrational I call her and she reassures me all will be ok and its in God's hand (she is much more religious than I am but its still comforting for me to hear).

as for the crying and emotions - those are just out of control. Last weekend I knew DH had a party with some of his college buddies but I thought it was on Saturday. When he got home from work on Friday and told me he was going out I started hysterical crying - like hands over face, can't catch my breath crying. It wasn't that I didn't want him to go, I was just thrown off by the change of plans. after we ate dinner he changed into sweats and laid on the couch and I asked what he was doing and he said he wasn't going. then I cried again bc I felt guity that he stayed home for me. it was not pretty.

@Coopersmama: I think I may understand where you are coming from. Before I got pg with DS my gyn diagnosed me with PCOS and said it would extremely difficult if not impossible for me to get pregnant without intervention. I was not at all open to fertility treatments so DH and I just anticipated it being us and our pup. Then I got pregnant and had a miscarriage and then got pregnant about a month and a half later with DS. I had also heard with PCOS that miscarriage rates are super high so the entire time I was expecting the worst. I made it through the first trimester then started spotting a lot. If it wasn't one thing it was another. Towards the end they were afraid that something was wrong with the placenta and that DS might end up stillbirth. So so so scary. It seemed like no one could understand how freaked out I was the entire time and why I wasn't just super excited. I mean I was but I was mostly nervous. In any case, everything turned out fine - perfect in fact. I cannot imagine not having DS in my life. Based on the history DH and I basically expected that DS was going to be our one and only and lo and behold here I am again, unexpectedly after never even getting a real post partum period. Of course I'm still freaked out but maybe just a little more hopeful because I know that even when things seem like they are going wrong they can turn out just fine. But there is always that thought in the back of my head, just waiting for something bad to happen. People don't really talk about the scary part of pregnancy but it is real and I wish that more people would've actually listened to my fears rather than just brushing them off and saying everything would be fine. Sorry for the book but I just want to let you know that you are not alone!

@Mae: oops I've never heard the term "hacking up a lung" before so I assumed it meant smoking. Must be a culture thing.

Hi ladies! I am excited to report that everything went well at my appt today and we got to see baby bean and heartbeat! I am measuring a few days behind but my cycles have been a little longer. I had my blood draw and was back out the door. I am relieved and happy sdn feel like I can really believe it now that it is official!

I promise to share more about our floor bed experience layer but we are headed out to dinner with LO as our 5 year wedding anniversary is tomorrow! Lots to celebrate...