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@tarabonno: aw, super cute bump! But I as super NOT with you on team green. Crazy patient lady.
@anandam: that's helpful! at least I know how to say it in my head now, and that sounds better than the awkward anne-anne-damn sound i was making in my head before
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@anandam Since we're only a day apart, that makes sense!
Can't wait to see a pic.@mae We were team green already, but it was cemented when we saw how much it was driving my in-laws crazy...
@beebug meant to say earlier how cute the stocking reveal is!
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@tarabonno: love the little bump
We are team green as well! Although I'm convinced it's a boy. I will be very very shocked if DH announces "it's a girl!" I can't quite remember DD's heart rate at this stage, but I think it was in the 160's. When we went for the genetic testing, this little bean's heart rate was 140. I know it's just an old wives tale, but it still has me convinced it's a boy.
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@tarabonno: What a cute bump! We may or may not end up team green again. We'd love to wait but I'm going to have extra growth ultrasounds at the end and if things end up like DS it will turn into 2 ultrasounds a week. With DS they slipped right at the end and it was a major disappointment for me to wait so long but not be surprised in the delivery room. Because of that we'll probably find out at the anatomy scan but there is always the chance that I'll ask not to know while we're there. Also - I loved how much being team green annoyed some people, especially my bitch SIL
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@tarabonno: @skipra: LOL @ using team-green status vindictively against relatives that annoy you
I'm just so anxious to start picturing my little one! And I don't really like gender neutral decor/clothes. I'm going full glitter or... whats boyish? I dunno haha
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@skipra Right?? It's just like an added benefit!
@Mae I'm 99% sure that our kid won't ever wear anything gender neutral. My guess is that by the time our families find out what it actually is, they'll show up armed with plenty of boy/girl clothes. I'm with you though, neutral stuff just isn't quite as cute.
@cookie_dough My gut is that we're having a girl! DH is a killjoy about stuff like this -- his response is always, "Well you have a 50% chance of being right." He doesn't buy in to any of the old wive's tales because he thinks that since you have 50/50 odds, you'll be right enough times to make people believe you! Our heart rate has been above 155 both times, so maybe I'm right? Or maybe I have a 50/50 shot of being right...
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We are definitely not team green! But I am totally stuck with not having a feeling at this point one way or the other! I wish I had a gut feeling, or wasn't letting my head get in the way!!
DH told another friend yesterday, he is so BAD! Haha. So we have two of his friends/colleagues knowing and my two bosses and one colleague/neighbour/going to be friend (lol).
I THINK my Mom knows. My baby doc office called yesterday and left a voicemail saying "call back to schedule appt for prenatal care" at 12:38pm. My Mom was at my house from 12-1, walking our dog so maybe she was walking then, but I doubt it, she would have been back and making or eating her lunch by then. She is watching DD today (took today off work to hang out with her!) but didn't lead on she knew this am, so who knows.
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I have the fast heart beat and the sickness so that would lead me to believe girl. Plus EVERYONE is saying its a girl. But I just can't get on board with that idea. Not that I think its a boy but I'm just not convinced either way. Whatever it is, it sure is giving me a heck of a time this week. Second tri is not going smoothly for me. I got dizzy on the bus and almost threw up on my way to work this morning. So yea, thats fun. DH has been doing so much for me that yesterday he said he thought I was taking advantage of him - then I started crying bc honestly I would love to be able to do everything normal but some days I just can't get moving. ugh ok rant over
TGIF everyone!
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@Beebug: did you tell people sooner with your first? I don't know how you have waited this long. I could never do it!
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@mrsog: oh no, so sorry you're feeling so sick
I hated feeling so helpless and though DH stepped up and handled everything at home I constantly felt guilty. Hopefully you will start feeling better soon!Baby's heart beat was FAST last time, at 11 wks. Measured 169 bpm which would lead me to believe it's a girl (if i believed in that theory, ha!), but according to Ramzi's method, which I've been obsessing over, we're having a boy. At the last ultrasound I saw that my placenta was on the right side of my uterus. At first I really wanted a girl, but now I think I really want a boy... ahhh I don't know! Next appointment is Tuesday so hopefully just 4 more days til we find out!
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@Beebug: aw it is nice that she is letting you tell her in your own time at least
@mrsog: I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time! Has your husband been going to appointments with you? I felt like my husband was sort of not sympathetic enough the first few weeks but everything changed after my 8 week appointment when he got to see the ultrasound. I think it really clicked in for him that I am GROWING A PERSON over here even if it doesn't really look like it most of the time
I don't think I knew about this heartbeat thing? At 8 weeks the baby was 157bpm and at 12 weeks I didn't write it down but I think it was 162. So I guess that would mean girl? Also the baby is implanted on the left side which I know some people say means girl. So I guess best guess right now is girl!
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@Mae: he does goes to all the appts with me and has actually been really amazing. it was just the one comment and my damn hormones that made me react that way lol last night he cooked a great dinner and did the dishes (and the kitchen is usually a place he stays away from so that is a big deal in my house!)
at my 8 week appt the hb was 157 and then at 12 weeks it was 177 - which I thought was crazy fast but they didn't say anything about it.
@Glitter: what is Ramzi's method? I haven't that one yet!
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@mrsog: I think thats the placenta thing. If the placenta is on the right side of your uterus it's a boy, if it is on the left side it is a girl. Look at your 8 week us and see which side the baby is on!
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@Mae: @Glitter: ok this is my 8 week u/s. help me decipher lol
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@mrsog: looks like baby is on the left side to me!
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@Mae: so another sign leading to girl!
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@mrsog: Yep! I have one friend who swears by the method bc her baby was on the right and was a boy. But then another one said she asked her doc and the doc claimed it was "bunk" so who knows... still fun to guess!
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@mrsog: Yes! I told my one boss first at 10w. Parents and siblings at 11w. A few colleagues and my other boss (she was on mat leave) and friends around 12w. Grandparents/Great-Grandparents at Easter, so 12w or so too, but then didn't tell work/let the floodgates open til 18-19w or so mid-May. Went "fb public" at 24w and really that was just a new profile pic with me sporting a bump in a pic with DH and dog at the front of our house!
I'm a weirdo, lol. I just don't want to "be" pregnant to everyone, I just want to be me. I like talking about being preggo with you ladies, but I am not into it with the rest of the world, especially professionally....I am still getting back into the grind since only getting back to work 1.5m ago and not ready for people to think I am leaving again, yet!!!
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@mrsog: TGIF for sure, and sorry you are not feeling well! I hope there is a corner in this 2nd tri for you that you can feel better and closer to normal! I am still sick as heck with cold/stuffy/headache!!
I don't believe the hb thing for boy or girl! DDs hb was always like 120bpm and ALWAYS freaked me out because it was so low. So of course with that it was all boy boy boy, and I was sure she was a girl and sure enough! This one has always been 140's or so......so wives tale that would be boy'ish, yes?
I forgot about the placenta position thing on the u/s....... I don't think I could figure where mine was anyways, can't remember what page my u/s pics are on......
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p. 31, thoughts?
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Anybody else out there not had any sonogram yet? Seems like we're the only ones!
We're planning to do the anatomy scan but stay team green. DH had a dream the other day it was twin boys! Wouldn't that be fun? Anybody else worry that getting excited about any particular outcome might make the LO feel pressure to perform? Or like a lifetime of feeling like a disappointment because you hoped he was a girl? I might be insane, but I'm trying to stay wide open in case of that.
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@Beebug: I do understand that on some level. this is my first so I was beyond excited to tell my parents and ILs so I told them and my bff right away. then after the 8 week appt it was in batches or as I saw people and then at 12 weeks I let my mom and MIL go crazy and tell everyone. I am not putting it on fb tho - I am so excited to call to and tell my friends or to see them somewhere and tell them but I'm not a big fb person so that doesn't interset me. I am almost 16 weeks now tho and I think most people know. I just let it spread thru the gossip vine on its own lol
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@anandam: I think that is sort of why I've avoided making guesses publicly and we haven't seriously talked about names yet. I don't really want to fall in love with a specific gendered name and start picturing that gender because I don't want a let-down if it isn't that gender. But I think if this pregnancy has taught me anything its that we get what we need, not what we want! I never would have chosen to be pregnant right now but as soon as I was I saw how absolutely perfect the timing is. I think gender will be the same. Whichever it is I think will be just perfect for us.
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@anandam: I am totally trying to stay open either way. At the beginning I admit I wanted a boy and I quickly put that out of my head bc I didn't want to get myself excited for something and be let down. I had a friend whos DH told her he would only be happy with a boy and she was terrified that it would be a girl and he wouldn't to be there (not the best relationship I've ever seen). it was a boy tho and she was so relieved. I couldn't imagine feeling that type of pressure. even tho we all know the gender is determined by the man!
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@mrsog: I am all for letting things spread on their own soon. December I will quit trying to hide it and let things spread! I want to make sure with our announcement Christmas card the right people know first and just go from there!
I think having the loss the cycle before DD1 made me want to stay super hush, and then between 11 and 12w I had a massive bleed, so it kept us really gun shy to tell. This time I really think it is work, which is funny.....I don't expect work people to be shocked, surely I have looked fat or whatever and people are guessing, but it will be family and friends (who I see less....because you know....of working, lol) that the shock value will be so, so much more fun with!!
I bought 2 pairs of mat pants and a sweater last night at old navy. Work pants for $9 on clearance? Heck yes. Another pair of skinny pants for $14 and the sweater was reg price. I still need a few pairs of pants! I went around 5pm yesterday when my bump is bigger than the rest of the day and it's still just....yuck looking in clothes, it's not a firm round bump, just mushy muffin top out the front, ha.....so made me want to hide it even more til it looks preggo cute instead of too many pies not cute!
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@mrsog: I hate to say but I'm feeling sort of pressured by my mom to have a girl. I know she'll be thrilled either way but she's told me that she will be heartbroken if I don't get to experience having a daughter because it is just different than having a son and is truly the "best thing ever." Which is sweet since ya know, I'm her daughter. But still. She said if I have a girl she'll never bug me to have another kid but if I have a boy she'll be on me to try at least once more for a girl.
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@Beebug: I have no idea how to decipher these things. I do think there's an awesome baby in there, though, whichever side s/he's on!
@Mae: Love that attitude.
@mrsog: Yikes for that friend!
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@Beebug: lol I dont think my bump is cute yet either. DH said if he saw me on the subway he wouldn't give me his seat bc he can't tell if I'm preggo or just had a big cheeseburger lol I think I'm a long ways off for being giving me a seat. I also bought a few things from Old Navy - pair of and jeans and legging, a sweater and 2 tops - actually MIL bought them for me. I must say she spoils us and I don't mind one bit
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@mrsog: well i'm no expert! lol, but my guess is since your baby is more to the left, that the placenta is also attached on that side (might not always work that way though).. which would mean girl!
Also, is this a transvaginal or abdominal ultrasound? if it is abdominal you have to flip the sides! Which means it really is more on the right side of the uterus which indicates... boy!
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@mrsog: @Beebug: agree on the lack of cute bump! I always carried weight in my stomach anyways so it getting slightly bigger honestly just looks like I gained 10 lbs. I think the main difference is that I've decided to stop sucking it in. Even though only like 10% of the bump is baby vs pizza now that I'm almost 4 mo I feel like I can just let it fly and be like whatever I'm 4 mo pregnant haha.
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@Mae: I was super pressured last time by my MIL to have a girl! Mostly in a joking way, but she was always making it very clear that she was hoping for a girl. She had two brothers growing up, then had two sons, so I think she was desperate for a little girl! I think she had come to terms with the fact that it was a "boy", since we were so sure it was a boy, but when it turned out to be a girl she was over the moon! I know she was just joking about it all along, but it kind of made me sad because I didn't like to think that she wouldn't be as excited about a little boy. This time around she hasn't said anything. And last time I totally had the name problem. I fell in love with our girl name (Brynn) and liked our boy name (William), but would have been so so sad if we hadn't gotten to use Brynn. Now I'm sort of feeling the same way again. I really want to use our girl name (Hannah)...or at least our 99% for sure girl name...and we have the same boy name again which I like, but if I never get to use it I would be fine.
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@cookie_dough: lol yea my mom is not joking she WILL harass me to have another if its a boy. Not that she'll love this baby any less if it is a boy I think she just wants to make sure I have a girl at some point. Although honestly... if I have a girl she will probably harass me to have another anyways bc she can't help herself and loves babies haha. But it would take the pressure off for #2. I sort of admit that I don't care either way because I think we'll have a second at some point... but I worry that next time I'll have a very strong preference because I sort of want one of each.
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@Mae: haha I totally stopped sucking in or trying to cover anything. we have an excuse now to look rounder in the middle so I'm going to use that and be comfortable!
@Glitter: this one was transvaginal so left side is correct!
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I am still sucking in....haha orrrr wearing my sweater and vest all day (thank goodness for dress down Friday today) and me being in and out of our building running errands around campus!
I have a feeling we will be the girl Grandchildren givers! MIL had 3 boys, BIL/SIL x 2 both had boys, and we've had the only girl. It will be funny if they keep having boys and we keep having girls! I don't think there will be any expectation or disappointment either way. My family knows me and know I was the biggest tomboy, I am handier than DH, DH coaches a women's university level sport so we definitely don't let any gender generalizations stop us from what we do and I think that funnels into our family that either gender can play whatever role they are hoping for from us or give us whatever for experience over one gender or the other!
Calling baby doc office to book my first appt with them!!
*closes office door* 
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Dec 19th, 3pm, woo! The receptionist remembered me, and said she was so excited we were going to bring another adorable kid into the world, hahaha. This kid is going to have so much pressure to be cute more than anything!! After healthy of course, hahaha.
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@Beebug: yay for appt! And agree about gender roles. Even though I'm all about the cute glitter and suspenders when it comes to the actual Doing Stuff we aren't too terribly traditional. I am definitely handier than my husband! And he has already said that regardless of what we have they are going to watch football with him on Sundays and learn all the rules. And the child will also bake cookies with me and learn how to use a sewing machine!
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@Beebug: yay! December is going to be so much fun around here! My sister already has 3 girls so at first I was hoping to give my parents a grandson. even tho my nieces live across the country and we really only get to see them now over the summer. it used to be every holiday we or they would travel but now they are all in school and things have gone sour with my sister so now they only come for the summers. anyway - my mom said she will be happy either way and is so excited to have a grandbaby she will see all the time. we are about an hour away from them but thats a big difference than NY to Kansas.
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@Mae: Totally! Well balanced is so important!! I do dress DD girlie which I so didn't think I would do, but I can't wait to see what she prefers when she gets older and what parts of DH and I she gets!
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@mrsog: We are halfway across the country from where DHs parents and brothers are, so we have a distance factor too (things are sour with us and DHs parents if anything, lol) DH is a teacher so we can only travel there Christmas, March Break, or summer!
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@Mae: @cookie_dough: I have a story about that. My mom realllly wanted me to have a boy with my first and she was convinced it was a boy. I called her after my ultrasound to tell her it was a girl, and her response was, literally, "What the F**?!" I was kind of crushed. But, she has adored my daughter from day one and loves buying her girl clothes, so she got over it real quick. Now she's pressuring me to have another girl.
I hated feeling so helpless and though DH stepped up and handled everything at home I constantly felt guilty. Hopefully you will start feeling better soon!
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