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@Beebug: glad to hear you did not fall hard!
And I think everyone just feels differently on names. My family has been pretty evenly split between people who have to "meet" the baby first to name them, and those that pick early. I never really think that babies (or anyone) look like a particular name, so I guess the meeting the baby thing has just never seemed important to me. Also, the totally superficial reason I want to pick her name-- so I can decorate! I don't know if we'll do any other name art in her nursery but I'm definitely ordering this print. There will be a 3rd baby fox between the other two foxes and it will have all three of our names. I think its adorable haha. (found this on etsy)
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@Beebug: I am always so paranoid and scared of being pregnant in the winter because of slipping on the ice. Glad you did not fall hard!
@Mae: Choosing a name is so difficult! That is why DH and I avoid it until pretty much the last possible moment
You still have time to decide what feels right. I do love that really cute print and the bedskirt! I wish I could be so crafty
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@Mae: FWIW, I really like Fiona June. It's classic but still sounds fresh.
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@Mae: Ahhh that is super adorable!!! I don't think I shared our pathetic name story....when we went to pick up our dog, we had two names in mind, one if we were getting one boy, one name for the other boy in the litter, and when we got there we felt neither fit (and we had already met them twice, lol) and took him home nameless and unnamed for 2 days. So we knew if we had that much of an issue naming our dog......kids weren't going to happen in advance, lol. The only thing that sucks about not naming DD right away is that all her teensy hospital bracelets day my name, I wish they atleast put "baby lastname" but I am sure there's a reason why it's my name....but still!
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@Beebug: lol about your dog! I did the same thing actually. Although when I got my dog it was really last minute because I was looking for corgis in rescue and waiting for one to pop up and when one became available I went and got him the very next morning! I think it took almost a week before I named him!
That does suck about the hospital bracelets. I didn't know/think about that!
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@Beebug: At our hospital it is standard protocol to call the baby "Baby boy or girl Mom's last name". My last name is both my maiden and married name so DS went by that. I vaguely remember hearing that in Canada (or maybe just Quebec?) that you aren't allowed to change your name legally when you get married - is that true?
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@Mae: wow, that is so quick for a rescue to pop up!! lol on a week! I think DH and I only made it 2 days because we said a hard deadline of 9pm the next day he had to have a name, we had just been calling him "pup pup pup" it was pathetic!
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@Beebug: lol he was 4 when I got him so I just called him "dog" until I named him! I guess I'm pretty consistent in my non-creativeness with nicknames and my indecisiveness with names… despite the best intentions to pick a name asap!
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@skipra: Just Quebec I think! Changing last name is definitely a norm here, but I think like everywhere lots are choosing to keep their maiden or use both! I was in a mad rush to change mine, I had never had a man's name before, just my Mom's maiden name, so taking DHs last name was super important to me!
DDs "birth card" that went on the incubator thing she slept in at hospital had "baby girl last name" but all her bracelets said my name......aw well!
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@Beebug: glad you didn't hurt yourself! Falling is also my fear!
I live in the south and we've had freezing rain. A coworker walked me to my car to make sure I didn't slip. I guess there still are gentlemen in the world! -
Hows everyone's week going? It is cooooooooold here (-8, not counting wind chill). I had to go run errands yesterday but I'm trying to not leave my house again today or tomorrow.
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@Mae: That fox print is SO CUTE! I understand about wanting both sides of the family evenly represented (another upside of twins, it's easy to get both families in there!) and the impatience to name her. I was shocked that we agreed so quickly and easy and really haven't waivered. I am afraid to look at name sites or posts about names though because I don't want to get name regret. Luckily you do have a few months left to decide! Maybe you can set the name thing aside for a few days and come back with fresh eyes? I think sometimes I burn out on one topic when I obsess about it non-stop and then it's hard to make a decision without feeling stressed about it, you know? I do think your choices are both really beautiful and she'll end up with a great name either way!
@Beebug: I'm glad you're ok after your fall!
We are back to experiencing polar vortex temperatures (-8 this morning - lovely!) and I am just over it. I just want to sleep until April! I had another appointment yesterday and the babies look good. Baby boy is 1 lb 10 oz and baby girl is 1 lb 8 oz. They are starting to look pretty smashed up in there. I'm only 5'2" with a very short torso, so the doctor said I am really going to be in for a treat these next couple months as the babies get bigger and bigger.
Does anyone else know of a ton of other babies due this year? Two more friends announced that they are pregnant this weekend. I know of another August mom who is still keeping it a secret too, as well as three ladies at work and three of my husband's cousins. It's going to be a busy year for babies, I guess!
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@twodoghouse: Feeling much better today! Still a little sore, but I think it was from the little tweak I did shoveling.
lol on polar vortex! We are -18, -33 with windchill here this am. It's chilly. I have also had enough. I don't mind winter, but we have had 17 extreme cold weather alert days this winter already. Makes walking the dog tough, playing outside with DD inhumane (lol) and just totally unpleasant when outside even for short times door to car, or whatever!
I don't know a ton of people due in 2014, in 2012 with DD that was a busy year! I guess For this year I know one in April, two due in June, one in July, and that's it! The April Mom and I live on the same street, she's due April 20th and it will be great to have someone close with babies close in age, her husband is a teacher too, so as long as we get along well as we get to know each other more it will be really great to spend time with them!
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@twodoghouse: oh man, you are going to get squished! I am 5'5" with a pretty short torso as well and the (one!) baby is already squishing my lungs and bladder. And the doc says its only going to get worse. haha. I do know a few babies due this year but not as many as you. I have a cousin who had a baby 2 weeks ago and another cousin due 1 week before me. And I have 3 sets of friends who are trying so they could very possibly have fall/early winter babies! Also Jon and Sherry from YHL, obviously
(anyone else ever wonder if famous or semi-famous ppl are ever on the boards? Like they could totally go incognito and just change details heh). also I am sooooo with you on hibernating. It is too damn cold to be out. Plus I'm so paranoid about falling. really grateful I work at home and can mostly just refuse to leave my house.
And yes, we definitely have time. I've just sort of been marinating on it in my mind the last few days. I told my husband Sunday night that despite our "decision" Saturday morning I was having trouble committing and needed to think it through more and he said that was fine. so now i'm just… thinking. I guess haha. also I'm thinking that due to my indecision, once we finally decide for sure we will probably not tell anyone except our parents and maybe our very best friends (and hb obviously). That way if the time comes and I have name regret it won't be that hard to tell just a few people we changed our minds vs. having everyone know.
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DHs cousin and wife are expecting in June and yesterday found out gender......ask me how much that prompted the fire to be lit again on wanting to find out ours! Oye.
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@twodoghouse: I live in the south and we have the possibility of ice and snow today and tomorrow. Schools are closed, businesses are closing early, and people are stocking their shelves like its a hurricane! Ha ha! We take things overboard but we aren't used to this kind of weather.
I know a few other mamas to be but no one real close to me. Most of my close friends either don't have kids or have older kids. I do have a couple of coworkers with babies the same age as mine which is nice.
And I understand about being short with a short torso. As the doc told me, there is no where to go but out! I was HUGE at the end.
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I am beyond sick of the cold as well. -33 here with the windchill this morning. Trying to get DD bundled up to get her in the car every morning has been quite a chore! I'm getting too big and tired to chase her around the house...she's not a fan of putting on her hat and coat!!!
I think that there is going to be a baby boom here in May. I don't have any friends who are due at that time, but tons of co-workers, friends of friends, etc. When I had my DD in July 2012 it was another baby boom here. The hospital was overflowing and there wasn't a single private room available. We had to share a room with some "not so friendly" people. Hoping that it doesn't happen this time around and that we get a private room!
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@twodoghouse: I know 4 people due in May alone! One of DH's best friend's wife is even due on the same say as me. My boss' wife is due in July. One of my close friends is August and just found out about another friend that'll be the end of the year. So yes, I know a ton of new babies coming this year!
It is coooooooold here too - it was 15 this morning waiting for the bus and I imagine the wind chill was much less. I'm not ready to rush to spring yet though. I still have a lot to do before May!
So the baby actually woke me up last night kicking me so hard. That was a first. I was laying on my side and he was kicking up towards my ribs and really active.
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@cookie_dough: Does your work cover private room? We were lucky with DD the hospital was a near ghost town and had this massive beautiful room that they didn't even end up charging our extended coverage for. My work covers semi, but with DHs and mine, all private for this girl pending no crazy baby boom, lol. Our hospital has the old wing, and a newer wing (less than 3 years old) and it's gorgeous. I have heard of people getting bumped to the old part, and it's apparently super getto!
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@cookie_dough: eek! I hope you don't have to share again! When I had DS, the brand new woman's hospital opened the month before. It feels like a hotel! Well as much as a hospital can
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@Beebug: your reminding me I have to set up my hospital tour. Beyonce supposibly had the maternity wing redone so it better be nice. I don't think I'll be staying in the same room as her though
we will see what the situation on private rooms is.
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@mrsog: we are just doing an infant cpr class, that is it.
The hospital I am delivering at only has private rooms-- score!! Also, to continue my theme of indecisiveness I am strongly considering changing practices--- at 26+ weeks pregnant--eek! lol I love my doctor but I found out yesterday that my hospital actually has a midwife center IN the hospital. Its all state of the art and sort of a hybrid because you get a midwife to attend to you throughout your labor and help with midwife-y philosophies like moving around a lot, birthing tubs, etc, but there are also docs there all the time and you can get drugs if you want them (and they don't kick you over to labor and delivery, you can stay with the midwives) and you're still in a facility with a level 3 nicu etc. They boast c-section rates under 10% and episiotomy rates under 5%. So I emailed for more info last night to see if I even CAN switch this late in the game and get more info. Right now it is sort of seeming too good to be true…. like with this option available why WOULDN'T everyone go this route unless you are high risk or having a planned c-section? So I'm sort of waiting to find out what the catch is haha.
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@Mae: That does sound like a great option to have. I think you should check with your insurance though bc I know mine does not cover seeing a midwife.
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@mrsog: I took a tour of the hospital since it was brand new. I ended up with a scheduled c section so honestly it didn't matter.
I also took a Breastfeeding class but I don't think it was worth it. What they told me I could read in a book. And practicing with a doll is not the same as a real baby. I had a hard Breastfeeding experience and ended up stopping after a few weeks. It was just too overwhelming any my hormones were still all over the place. I would have rathered a class that got to the nitty gritty and told me the real things to expect. I felt the class glossed over the basics and focused on breast is best. Well it is, but what if it's hard and we have problems? Tell me worst case scenarios. But that just may be my personality - hope for the best but expect the worst. Maybe your hospital has better options?
I didn't take anything else and I don't feel like I missed out. A lot of the basics came naturally.
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@mrsog: Interesting! I know the midwife's website said that they accept all insurance that the hospital accepts. And I just checked our coverage and it says that midwives and birthing centers are covered at 80% (which is the same as doctors/hospitals). Although they do specifically exclude doulas. I guess the only question is if my prenatal visits would still be covered at 100% because they are prenatal? Or if they'd be 80% because they are with a midwife.
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@Beebug: yep, I am covered for a private room!!! We did finally get a private room the last night (we were there 3 nights) and it felt like a hotel compared to the first two nights. There was literally NO room to move around at all in the semi-private. DH had to share the hospital bed with me!!! And after a c-section, there was pretty much no way I could have managed all night if he had gone home.
@mrsog: I took a general prenatal class offered by our hospital (covered labour, delivery, post-natal, breastfeeding, etc). I really didnt' think it was all that useful (especially since I ended up with a c-section and wasn't able to bf) but i would still do it over again in a heartbeat because all the girls from the class (we were 7 couples) became really good friends, supported each other through our first year as parents, and hung out all the time while on maternity leave! Now, basically two years after taking the class, we still all get together once in a while with the kids, email each other with questions, etc. I know this is definitely not the norm, and I think it helped that we chose a class that was once a week for 6 weeks, so we got to see each other over a longer period...I don't think those who do the weekend condensed course end up talking much afterwards! That's just my two cents...there are definitely other ways to meet new moms...but it was nice that we were all going through the same thing at the exact same time!
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@mrsog: we did a 4 week course, hospital tour on the 4th week. I know this may not bother others, but we paid $200 for it (through the hospital) and the materials and resources they used (overhead projectors, VHS tapes with video examples from mid-90's) and we were in the basement of a house owned by the hospital adjacent to the hospital. Stuff like that turns me off! I want updated research, resources and handouts, not ancient stuff copied over and over -especially paying for it! So that was my only beef, and that it scared me on a few things (like the epi, which didn't seem like a big deal in the moment in labour, lol) overall it was good, definitely not doing it again, the hospital tour was of the most value! My beef's with it may not bother others, but had I known I would have totally asked the question about materials and resources.
@Mae: Cool about the new option! Hopefully late in the game it is okay to make the switch!
@cookie_dough: Crazy about having to share a bed with DH! Our room had these crazy cool recliners that flattened out and locked into single beds! DH slept in one of them with me in the bed! We were there two nights, one in labour, one with DD! We should have stayed another, if we have a weekend baby again, we will, had we stayed til the Monday it would have been so much easier (had to go back and wait and wait for bilirubin and hearing test stuff, would have been way more comfortable just staying in room)
DH is home at lunch every day this week, in exams, and it couldn't come at a better time, I usually go home for my lunch hour and walk the dog, but my body so needs the break this week, so it is great this week! I sat in a cozy chair with some soup and watched the lunchtime news.....and definitely didn't want to come back to my desk!
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@mrsog: I took a natural childbirth class and I think it was helpful for techniques to deal with the pain. I don't know exactly how it compared to regular childbirth class though and I did end up with an epidural anyway so take that with a grain of salt. Also CPR is essential. Breastfeeding - the nurses will help you in the hospital and usually infant care they go over in the hospital as well so no need to spend money on that.
It's cold here too although yesterday was pretty nice, I think it hit 40! I don't mind as much now that I don't have to walk to and from the train for work every day. It's just a pain to get DS all dressed to go to the car and then have to take his coat off so he can go in the carseat. And forget about the park and walks outside. OK, I guess we are a little cooped up here!
Not sure who brought it up but our hospital also only has private rooms. Last time there were so many babies born at the same time the entire maternity ward was full and we had to stay on the pediatric floor! I knew tons of people having babies in 2012, around when DS was born. Not so many now but one girl I was pregnant with last time and had her son just 2 weeks before DS is also pregnant again and due a month after me! Her sister is also pregnant and due the exact same day as me. We're all expecting boys. Kind of crazy.
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I was supposed to be in a bf'ing class, but ended up not going and heard from a friend that none of it mattered anyways, it didn't mean anything at the time despite being a month away from due date, nurses and LC following baby were the most helpful.
It was at times frustrating, but in hindsight super helpful, each shift change of nurses, each nurse taught me a different way to bf. In the moment I was like wtf....it was changing every time, but it ended up working out that when I got home, I had a lot of different tips and ideas, and holds I could try with DD to get the best from her and I while learning to bf!! I didn't end up needing an LC, but know many who used them and they came to the house post-baby and were super helpful.
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One thing I forgot to mention regarding the childbirth class - a lot of people say that they didn't learn anything that they didn't already know from books or the internet. This may be true but a lot of times the class is the first time your partner is learning about the process of giving birth. It totally can help open the lines of communication about how you want them to support you during labor which is SO important.
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@skipra: +1.
I did a big "oh yah, never thought of that" as I read your post! So, so true! I knew it, but did DH? And it definitely had us chatting about what worked and didn't work, what we liked for different positions when practicing working through contractions and such! Even though we didn't put it into practice, it definitely got us talking!
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We took a class and I didn't get a ton out of it but the instructor was an awesome resource and she gave out her cell so I definitely called her with questions afterwards. It wasto worth it for that alone. And I agree with infant cpr being important.
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Probably a good point about husbands. My husband doesn't really know much at all about all this stuff, and he isn't the type to read daddy books. But I do appreciate that he isn't grossed out by it and is pretty frank. He asked me the other day when I'm going to start "lactating." Which just made me LOL because first, that's a random question, and second, it was such a technical word. I told him I didn't know and asked him if he was worried about it and he was like "nah. Sex is supposed to be messy." haha.
I guess at some point we should probably sit down and talk about what I'm learning in my books though!
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@Mae: I thought my husband would be a lot more grossed out but he wasn't. Granted with a c section it's a little different but he was totally checking everything out. He points out how my organs and uterus were just plopped on top of me.
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@Mamasig: haha that is kind of crazy reading that! Crazy to think what they actually do during a c-section!
Ok. Wainscotting = out! DH was iffy and I decided whyyyy create more work for myself (I would be doing it all), we're already sanding down and refinishing the furniture, and everything else will add up project-wise, I think I am still going to something on the wall that the crib is on, or just the width of the crib, but wainscotting is out, and I am okay with that.
I posted a thread about the change table too, and it will also be out of the room. So rocker, crib, dresser, bookshelf and maybe toy box are in, rug in the middle, shelving on either side of the window, and that should be enough for me to chew on for now!
I think me being so sore this week has also influenced how okay I am with dropping that project. I have to be limited in every step I take, especially after sitting for a few, my pelvis area and lower abs just feel totally shredded and sore.
Had the craziest movement with the babes ever this morning, like must have been the whole body moving, my stomach just popped and it felt like a big roll or shift rather than a quick kick.....so crazy.
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@Beebug: these babies definitely are getting bigger. I tend to feel little somersaults too. And that lovely pain in my crotch is starting again.
On a side note, has anyone had the flu while pregnant. I had the flu shot but I'm feeling pretty bad and running a fever. Of course, the dr office is closed today because of the weather.
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@Beebug: Better not to take on too much and end up hating it! I'm trying to temper myself on projects because I don't want the nursery to become not even fun anymore. Also, I've been noticing movement is different the last few days too. Mostly I wonder if she has her back against my stomach rather than my spine? For a few weeks I was feeling a lot of definite kicks/jabs. Now I feel movement and pushing and stretching and I think even hiccups once, but not as many little feet. I'm thinking she just isn't facing my stomach and so she is pushing back against it without kicking it? I dunno lol.
@Mamasig: I have not but I hope it isn't that!
I had a horrible cold in the fall at the end of my first trimester and I was miserable.
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Forgot to post 25w pic, taken yesterday....a day late as per usual, lol.
@Mae: agree! I did t want to dread the project before it started, doing the furniture will be enough!
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Ugh, it is the flu. Sorry, I just need to vent! The worst part is I can't take care of my little boy. My husband works shift so my mom is taking him, but I feel so bad
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@Beebug: cute bump!
You still have time to decide what feels right. I do love that really cute print and the bedskirt! I wish I could be so crafty
(anyone else ever wonder if famous or semi-famous ppl are ever on the boards? Like they could totally go incognito and just change details heh). 
we will see what the situation on private rooms is.
I had a horrible cold in the fall at the end of my first trimester and I was miserable.
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