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@Mamasig: I'm sorry, that sounds miserable
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For those of you who are/will be WOHM, have you started looking into child care yet? I'm due end of May (could be June) and the places I've contacted already have a waiting list! I feel bad that I've dropped the ball but I had no idea I had to start this early! We are planning to do a childcare rather than a nanny or nanny share (although a nanny share sounds lovely!)
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@Mrs Hazelnut: Yea, I didn't know either but a local friend warned me when I was like 8 weeks along. I started calling around at that point and most places only had 1-2 spots left! I thought it was insane. My kid was 1 inch tall at that point! regardless. We booked at about 12 weeks.
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@mae: Wow! 12 weeks! Good for you for finding a place. How old will your baby be when she starts?
I feel so ridiculous even going on a tour without having a baby yet but I guess that's what I need to do!
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@Mrs Hazelnut: Yea I asked the people if calling people that early was normal and they told me yes, but it seems ludicrous. When I was first looking I was planning to start her at 8 weeks (so I told them early July). After I told my boss he decided to let me work from home with her until 16 weeks so now she'll start in early September.
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@mae: 16 weeks sounds good! Most places around here won't take infants younger than 12 weeks. I'm hoping to start mine at 16 also. I work at a school so I'm incredibly grateful to have the summer off with mine. Of course if I can stretch it a few more weeks that would be nice too!
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Given our different mat leave scenario, no we haven't started yet! BUT comparing it to when we did start, last year over March Break (DH off work) we visited a zillion daycare options and we were looking for October at that point, so 6-7 months ahead and a few places I did call didn't have spots, it seemed so crazy! I know in the big city near me you have to nail down top daycare spots the moment you get your bfp and that's with our mat leave time -insanity.
We will be looking into a nanny or nanny share after this time I think, unless current home daycare that DD goes to now is still an option, but I am doubting it will be.
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I am considering myself extremely lucky and my MIL will be watching my little guy when I sadly have to return to work at 12 weeks. She will also be with SIL's little one so she will have her hands full. I feel a little bad but she wants to do it! She is a retired pre-school teacher and I know she will do great. I'm also going to look for a new job while on mat leave for something closer to home and part time. If it stay at my current job in the city my new commute will be about an hour door to door (35 minute train ride). I really want to be closer so I can just hope in the car and know I'm close by.
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@mrsog: You are very lucky! My mom watches my son and it is such a blessing. I also love the relationship they have. He knows I'm mommy but when he sees my mom show up every day he is so happy. It's almost like he says - it's ok, mama, you can go to work now. And then when I get home, he knows she's off now.
I'm looking into daycare for my older son who will be almost 2 when baby brother is born and I go back to work. I've started looking around but haven't been too worried because I figure worst case my mom can watch both for a little while if necessary.
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@Mrs Hazelnut: We are battling this very issue right now. Every place we find and like is booked up and has a lengthy waiting list. To add a complication, we are considering moving to a different part of town (Seattle traffic is wild and our commute is currently miserable) which means we would have to decide six months before our lease expires where we plan to move and find childcare in that area. It's hard to commit to something like that when there's no guarantee we'll find the right place. It's a sticky wicket! Good luck to you, keep us posted - I would also love a nanny share but DH isn't on board.
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It has been a crazy couple weeks in our household! We went on our baby moon trip, I negotiated coming back to work part-time after maternity leave, we assembled all the nursery furniture and have had a variety of other projects and issues going on.
I'm happy to report that after a couple of weeks of looking, researching and hunting, we finally chose our nursery chair and I'm a happy future mama!
Is anyone doing maternity photos? When do you plan to do them?
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@gingerblonde: no maternity photos for me. I don't really like how I look pregnant, so I'm not into documenting it. I'm short with a huge belly and I get swollen. The last time, my face looked different for about the last 6 weeks. But they do have such lovely maternity photography! Some women lol do beautiful.
But I did already book little man's newborn shoot!
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@gingerblonde: congrats on your progress! I am doing maternity photos, although mostly only because I'm a photographer and I struck a deal with a photog-friend of mine to exchange sessions
I plan to do mine (and I recommend to moms I do photos for!) right around 30-32 weeks. Usually this is sort of a sweet spot for maximum bump-age with minimal swelling or feeling like a whale-ness. Although since that will be end of feb/early march in Ohio, we're going to need to be a bit flexible on this and we may push it back a little if we're having horrid weather. Honestly you can do them any time though. I once did a maternity session with a mom who was a week PAST due! She was a bit swollen but honestly, it documents that time in your life and it is beautiful regardless.
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@gingerblonde: No mat pics, but I would like to try to get something like this taken (from pinterest), only because of my DD and her current love for doing this exact pose! We are working on giving it a cue/word so when we want to do this (going to wait til later in pregnancy) she knows to stick out her belly, lol.
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@Beebug: my son sometimes walks around like that! He purposefully pokes out his belly. That looks like a cute pic!
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@Mamasig: Just a silly, cute pic that would be fun to try to capture! I have a few places in mind to try to get it, just will be a matter of weather factoring in, mid-end of March onward!
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It's not something that I will give much thought to...but a super fun question to ask, and see pics for, but have any of you shopped for or thought about the outfit you will bring you LO(s) home from the hospital in?!
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@Beebug: Yes! I already have thoughts on gowns and hats I want to have monogrammed - a lil bro to match big bro's shirt, probably an LSU one (my alma mater), something with his name, etc. With DS I had onesies and little hats but nothing personalized. He also ended up being in the hospital for longer than we expected so he wore his "going home" outfit early on. Since this little one will basically just have hand me downs, I'm getting him a lot of personalized things. Boys clothing is not as cute! I've also started looking for his outfit for his picture at the hospital.
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@Beebug: ok, that picture is pretty much the cutest thing ever!!! My DD is obsessed with her (and everyone else's) belly right now. She lovessss poking my belly and lifting up her shirt and saying "belly...belly". She gets so confused when I put her in a onesie and she realized she can't lift her shirt! But she hasn't started sticking out her belly yet!
I haven't picked a going-home outfit yet. I didn't really pick one for DD...we were team green and I didn't do the usual "bring one girl and one boy outfit". We just brought her home in a gender neutral green onesie with a matching hat and socks. Maybe since we know what we are having this time, I will find something a bit more exciting.
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@gingerblonde: thanks for the reminder about maternity photos! I want to do them. I was going to look at groupon or living social because they always have photography packages on there.
@mae: thanks for the timing recommendation! 30-32 weeks sounds pretty good!
We are team green and I haven't yet thought of a coming home outfit. I wanted to bring one boy and one girl outfit but that may be too much. I'll see what my clothing status is after the baby shower and then pick out an outfit.
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I have given no thought to a going home outfit. It's not something I care much about I don't think… not like there is going to be a welcome wagon here when she arrives
I assume whenever I pack my hospital bag I'll just pick something cute from the newborn clothes pile we have accumulating in the nursery.
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I was obsessed with finding the perfect homecoming outfit for mine. With DD, I got her this adorable floral overall thing with a matching hat, and she was absolutely drowning in it. It ended up fitting her when she was 3-4 months old. With DS, I got him this little navy blue long sleeved thing that said "little brother" in the newborn size, and it fit him perfectly but it turned out that the day we took him home it was literally 85 degrees and I had to change him right out of it and into a plain short-sleeved onesie. With #3 I'm going to wait until April at least before I get anything, and make sure it's good for hot weather.
I think homecoming outfits are so cute though. My favorite picture from when DS was born is one where DD is sitting in the wheelchair they brought me, holding her doll and her new baby brother all dressed in his outfit in her lap.
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@gingerblonde: I don't think we're going to do "official" maternity photos. With twins, I feel like I'm already past my peak cuteness at 25 weeks. However, I think we're going to do some DIY ones where I just get all dressed up and my husband takes some pics. I've been wanting to do it in the snow, but every time it's snowed this year the temps have dropped dramatically. I don't want to stand outside and look all serene and cute-pregnant while it's -5! It's snowing a ton now and it's not too cold so maybe tomorrow, if I can figure out what to wear!
@Beebug: That pic is adorable. I can't wait to see your version when/if you replicate it!
As for coming home outfits, I ordered pink and blue Gap outfits in newborn size. Just sweatpants with little snap up tops and a matching hat. I keep buying other stuff that I think would be cute, though, so depending on the temperature and how big they are, we have some options. I do want them to be sort of matching/coordinating though.
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I want to use the same outfit we used for my DS which was a blue and white striped romper but not sure it will be warm enough in May. Guess we will play it by ear.
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Quiet here this weekend… hope that means everyone had a fabulous weekend
Soooooooo anyone else starting to freak out a little bit? I'm having a really hard time mentally this weekend. I hit 27 weeks, officially 3rd trimester. 13 weeks to go.
And on one hand OMG 13 weeks is not a long time and then I am going to be a MOM. And my whole life will be different. And that just does not seem like enough time to be ready for all of that and to be responsible for a whole human being.
But then on the other hand OMG 13 more weeks?? I really have to do this for another 3 months?? I'm starting to be uncomfortable and I have periods of intense uncomfortableness and I can't possibly just be increasingly uncomfortable for another 3 months can I? Except it's not like I have a choice at this point, only way out is through it! But omg 13 weeks is forevvverrrrr……
And then I loop back around to the freaking out about being a mom again and how short 13 weeks is. Feeling a bit insane.
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@Mae: I'm kind of the same way! Time seems to be going by fast and slowly at the same time, if that makes any sense! I'm 25 weeks, and it feels like I have quite a long way to go. But at the same time, I feel like I don't have that much time left to get everything ready and really prepare DD for what is going to happen (although I'm sure she won't really understand, no matter what I do to prepare her!)
I'm not too uncomfortable yet, except that I spend a lot of time sitting on the floor with DD, and trying to get up off the floor is getting more and more difficult! Also, I have this super random pain...in my right butt cheek hahaha! sooooooooooo weird. I've actually had it since very early pregnancy, and it seems to be getting worse. Last night it was so bad that I could hardly sleep because I would get a shooting pain every time I moved. It's totally causing me to waddle too. I had a prenatal massage on the weekend, but I didn't mention it because I felt weird saying "ya, the only thing that is bothering me is my butt" hahaha.
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@cookie_dough: aw, lol. Could it be the Sciatic nerve? I hear about that a lot. I'm feeling much better this morning because I feel much better! This weekend was so rough for me because LO had wedged herself right against my bladder and I literally spent 48 hrs like I had a mild UTI I could do nothing about. Then overnight she migrated back up by my ribs and now the world is right again hah. I guess I just need to keep in mind that for now at least, I'll have good days and bad days and any time I'm having a bad day, a good day could be right around the corner.
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@Mae: oh, that sounds awful! Glad she moved back into a more comfy position. I think that constantly having to pee at night is my least favorite pregnancy symptom...while i'm trying to fall alseep, I literally have to get up every 5 minutes to pee. Once I'm asleep, I'm usually good until morning though, unless something wakes me up in the night.
I'm not sure if it's related to the sciatic nerve or not, could be! My very scientific research on Dr. Google told me it could be pelvic girdle pain...but I'm not too sure!
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@cookie_dough: Bah. these kids better be super cute to be worth all the trouble. lol.
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@Mae: hahaha, totally! DD was definitely worth all the trouble, I'm sure this one will be as well
My sister found out yesterday that she's having a girl! She's due exactly a month after me. I'm very excited, because I can now ship all the clothes DD has outgrown off to her
And I'm happy to know that even if DD won't have a sister, at least she'll have a girl cousin (not that it really matters, but I just think it will be nice!)
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@cookie_dough: awww yay! I am happy my LO will have a cousin close in age (18 mo old when she is born) but he lives far away unfortunately. But several of my good friends are trying so I'm really hopeful there will be more 2014 babies for my LO to be bff with
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@Mae: I'm trying not to think about it so I don't freak out - ha ha! I was so naive the 1st go round. I don't think I worried about being a mom. Now that I know what's coming, I get stressed out if I think about it too much. I'm not looking forward to the newborn days.
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Have you ladies had any experience with your IT band? I find that is what gives me the most grief right now. I used to think it could the sciatic nerve, but stretching out my IT band usually reallllly helps. I find it harder to do my fave stretches to target that area while preggo, but there are still some that work! Who knows it may not even be that spot, but I find the stretches really give relief in my back. I have some bulging disc issues and a reallllly bad lower back. My Mom had two major back surgeries after both my sis and I were born, so I am considering myself lucky to just follow my bio dad's suit with the knee surgeries (had one, need another!) and not my Mom's back issues! I have had a few MRIs done and some bad issues with back related to my running (like going numb from the waist down when running....it's awful) but I have been able to physio and rehab back slowly to avoid and major intervention!
So yesterday my step Dad and Mom were over, so DH and him took the bed out of our spare room, the rug, etc, there is just the now abandoned change table (we're going to get rid of it) and one shelf, I totally had a holy shit moment last night. Like.....that's going to be a baby's room soon, OUR coming baby's room, lol. The room is totally empty, crib laying in a box on the floor. So I am with you ladies on the time. For me it feels like there isn't enough time, I am no where near ready to have #2 yet and really want to get going on starting (and finishing!) that room.
I think I am getting sick.....again. Ugh
My body is so sore, I have definitely recovered from my shenanigans last weekend, and didn't shovel one bit after another dumping of snow this weekend, but think preg sore has taken over, and just ugh...my body feels so tired all the time!
Anyone getting super bad charlie horse's? The arches of my feet? There are moments I would rather roll over and die the pain is so bad, and I have no idea what to do to help them,
26w today......14w to go! Uhhh crazy! OH!! And a friend of mine told me she was preggo yesterday! Due in August. She was just a teammate/acquaintance previously, but her DS was born the month before my DD and we hung out a lot on mat leave, so I am super pumped to be off with her again.
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@Beebug: I don't know what my IT band is haha. I have had some lower back pain, only after over-use and at the site of a previous injury. Just doing yoga stretches and taking it easy otherwise seems to help with those. Honestly the only things making my uncomfortable currently are breathing issues when LO sits too high (although I don't mind those TOO much) and bladder issues when she sits too low (MIND VERY MUCH SO STOP PLZ. lol). I'm sorry you're having cramp issues in your legs, I hate those! I haven't had any since pregnant. I feel like I've heard that potassium helps decrease the happenings of charlie horses, but maybe that is an old wives tale. Still, maybe eat a banana, what could it hurt? hah.
@Mamasig: That is not comforting.
I don't think I'm so much scared of taking care of her (naive maybe!) I am just scared of missing my current life. We were/are honestly just really happy the two of us and even though I'm so excited about our LO, I worry about how much I might miss our super easy lazy indulgent life haha.
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@Mae: It's basically the big muscle that runs through your butt, connected down your leg, and up into the back too.
I attached a pic of the stretch, I usually doing this one standing (on one foot) but while preggo, it is better (said my physio) to do it on your back, that way no tenseness from trying to keep balance and you're a little more loose! Good for the back to flatten on the floor! I do it a little different from the pic because of my bad knees, I have my hands laced together in my knee-pit rather than over my knee! Just a thought for anyone with back soreness, this stretch feels so dang good.
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I didn't read as far as the banana comment, I eat 2 banana's a day.....so.....there goes that theory? I figured lack of hydration probably wasn't helping? I really need to drink more.
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@Mae: Well, I'll tell you my experience. I had DS at almost 34 so I had that carefree life for a while. And honestly, I don't miss it. Sometimes I miss the sleeping in, shopping just for me, pedicures every month, etc. But my life feels so much fuller now. Those things just kind of faded to the background. Time with my LO is so much more important to me. I was actually surprised that I didn't miss my old life. I remember it, but I don't really miss it.
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@Mae: I have moments of panic too. Like you - sometimes it seems really far away and sometimes I think it's going to happen so soon and I'm not ready! Yesterday we went to our hospital for a multiples "class" (we were the only couple, so it was sort of like a three hour chat with a twin mom instead). It sort of freaked us both out. The mom teaching the class went into pre-term labor at 21 weeks and was on bedrest for 11 weeks before her twins came at 32 weeks. Because of that we went over a LOT of preterm labor/NICU information and even toured one of the empty "neighborhoods" in our NICU. It's a really nice, new addition to the hospital and the nurses we talked to were amazing but I just really really really don't want to have to deal with it. I need these kids to keep cooking for as long as humanly possible! I'm glad your LO moved off your bladder! I have one very low and one very high so I am sort of getting the best(worst) of both worlds with the baby positions these days. Lovely.
@cookie_dough: How fun that your sister is having a girl! It will be so nice for your LO to have a cousin so close in age. My sister was originally due two months after me but had a miscarriage. She is gearing up to do another frozen embryo transfer soon, so I am hoping for a 2014/early 2015 cousin for my LOs as well.
@Beebug: Yay for 26 weeks! Oh my, I can't imagine being pregnant with knee and back issues. I hope the stretching continues to help out with your pain and soreness! I can't wait to see what you end up doing with LO#2's room. The pics you showed us of your daughter's room were so cute!
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@Mamasig: I'll be 30 this year so it's not like I'm missing my youth here haha. I'm sure that life after LO will be better than life before her, but it is hard not to worry. Especially because LO was a surprise and we were planning to wait a bit longer before trying… we are so eternally grateful that it did happen this way because we know how lucky we are to have gotten pregnant without trying. But at the same time we didn't have that period of deciding to change our lives and then working to do so. It was just sort of…. you're going to be parents now so hold onto your asses and get ready! hah. I'm sure it will be great and more than worth it. But it is the thing I spent the most time worrying about (aside from LO joining us safely!)
@Beebug: hah ok scratch the potassium thought. The hydration thought can't be bad though! I hope you figure it out regardless, I hate leg/foot cramps.
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@twodoghouse: oh man that is scary! Cook babies cook! I have sort of glibly said many times that I'd love to have twins because we want 2 and then I could get 2 for the price of 1-- only 1 pregnancy and birth and newborn period. But realistically I know that twin pregnancy and birth and newborn period are a whole other thing! That sounds really unpleasant to have one high and one low like that. It's like they are working in concert against you haha.
I plan to do mine (and I recommend to moms I do photos for!) right around 30-32 weeks. Usually this is sort of a sweet spot for maximum bump-age with minimal swelling or feeling like a whale-ness. Although since that will be end of feb/early march in Ohio, we're going to need to be a bit flexible on this and we may push it back a little if we're having horrid weather. 
And I'm happy to know that even if DD won't have a sister, at least she'll have a girl cousin (not that it really matters, but I just think it will be nice!)
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